Dr. Kelly Brogan

fly the nest and go off into the, you know, wild blue yonder and live their lives without doctors and without appointments and without prescriptions and, you know, walking it over to CVS kind of a thing. And in these instances, there was like a very dramatic regression, like out of seemingly nowhere where I could start to appreciate again, because in these instances it was so dramatic.

I could start to appreciate like, oh, they're not ready. They're not ready to shed the sick identity. There's something that they're collapsing back into even though I'm trying to push them out the nest. I guess that's when I first started to explore what kinds of needs are being met by an illness that we've otherwise been told is a random, unfortunate illness

I could start to appreciate like, oh, they're not ready. They're not ready to shed the sick identity. There's something that they're collapsing back into even though I'm trying to push them out the nest. I guess that's when I first started to explore what kinds of needs are being met by an illness that we've otherwise been told is a random, unfortunate illness

I could start to appreciate like, oh, they're not ready. They're not ready to shed the sick identity. There's something that they're collapsing back into even though I'm trying to push them out the nest. I guess that's when I first started to explore what kinds of needs are being met by an illness that we've otherwise been told is a random, unfortunate illness

you know, emergent phenomenon of just having a body, just having a flawed human body. You know, it gets sick sometimes, shit happens kind of a thing. And this perspective obviously is very confronting for a lot of people because the, well, for the very reasons we're talking about, because having a random illness that has an ICD-10 code allows you to, to what? Take

you know, emergent phenomenon of just having a body, just having a flawed human body. You know, it gets sick sometimes, shit happens kind of a thing. And this perspective obviously is very confronting for a lot of people because the, well, for the very reasons we're talking about, because having a random illness that has an ICD-10 code allows you to, to what? Take

you know, emergent phenomenon of just having a body, just having a flawed human body. You know, it gets sick sometimes, shit happens kind of a thing. And this perspective obviously is very confronting for a lot of people because the, well, for the very reasons we're talking about, because having a random illness that has an ICD-10 code allows you to, to what? Take

Literally zero responsibility for the experience. And so the victim posture is built in to that diagnosis that says this thing happened to you and too bad, so sad. So most you can do is just be a good patient, take your meds, show up to your appointments. And you know, this is just, this is just life. So the defiance of that victim is,

Literally zero responsibility for the experience. And so the victim posture is built in to that diagnosis that says this thing happened to you and too bad, so sad. So most you can do is just be a good patient, take your meds, show up to your appointments. And you know, this is just, this is just life. So the defiance of that victim is,

Literally zero responsibility for the experience. And so the victim posture is built in to that diagnosis that says this thing happened to you and too bad, so sad. So most you can do is just be a good patient, take your meds, show up to your appointments. And you know, this is just, this is just life. So the defiance of that victim is,

that victim posture, I think comes through the appreciation of how being in the victim actually works. Like it meets our needs the same way, you know, drinking alcohol, even if you understand yourself to have a problem with drinking alcohol, it's meeting needs, it's working. And as long as you are in rejection of that thing and,

that victim posture, I think comes through the appreciation of how being in the victim actually works. Like it meets our needs the same way, you know, drinking alcohol, even if you understand yourself to have a problem with drinking alcohol, it's meeting needs, it's working. And as long as you are in rejection of that thing and,

that victim posture, I think comes through the appreciation of how being in the victim actually works. Like it meets our needs the same way, you know, drinking alcohol, even if you understand yourself to have a problem with drinking alcohol, it's meeting needs, it's working. And as long as you are in rejection of that thing and,

or obviously embrace of it, like you're not going to be able to see the relational aspects, right? So what is your relationship to your symptoms and your illness affording you? Well, usually to really reduce it down, there's yeses that we get and there's nos that we get. So the yeses that we get through a diagnosis are usually in the realm of connection, compassion, attention,

or obviously embrace of it, like you're not going to be able to see the relational aspects, right? So what is your relationship to your symptoms and your illness affording you? Well, usually to really reduce it down, there's yeses that we get and there's nos that we get. So the yeses that we get through a diagnosis are usually in the realm of connection, compassion, attention,

or obviously embrace of it, like you're not going to be able to see the relational aspects, right? So what is your relationship to your symptoms and your illness affording you? Well, usually to really reduce it down, there's yeses that we get and there's nos that we get. So the yeses that we get through a diagnosis are usually in the realm of connection, compassion, attention,

And the no's that we get are in the realm of boundaries, right? So where if you have this thing, you often don't need to learn how to say no. The other day I was thinking about this because my daughter asked me, I have teenage daughters, and my daughter asked me to drive her somewhere. I didn't feel like driving her somewhere. I live in Miami. The traffic is actually unhinged recently.

And the no's that we get are in the realm of boundaries, right? So where if you have this thing, you often don't need to learn how to say no. The other day I was thinking about this because my daughter asked me, I have teenage daughters, and my daughter asked me to drive her somewhere. I didn't feel like driving her somewhere. I live in Miami. The traffic is actually unhinged recently.

And the no's that we get are in the realm of boundaries, right? So where if you have this thing, you often don't need to learn how to say no. The other day I was thinking about this because my daughter asked me, I have teenage daughters, and my daughter asked me to drive her somewhere. I didn't feel like driving her somewhere. I live in Miami. The traffic is actually unhinged recently.

I don't even know what's happening. Everyone from LA and New York is moving here. And for me to take her somewhere 15 minutes away would have been like an hour of something and driving. And I really didn't have any good reason not to drive her. And I had this immediate thought that if I had a migraine...