Dr. Kristin Carothers

Plus or minus 30. You know what I mean? It's like six minutes, you put your things on.

Plus or minus 30. You know what I mean? It's like six minutes, you put your things on.

Yes.

Yes.

It's absolutely not bullshit. If you've got a kid with ADHD or you have ADHD, you've got to do one thing at a time. You give one command in the room where you want it to occur. You wait for the person to start so then you can reinforce the fact that they're starting. Thank you for listening. Because you're trying to get them to listen to you.

It's absolutely not bullshit. If you've got a kid with ADHD or you have ADHD, you've got to do one thing at a time. You give one command in the room where you want it to occur. You wait for the person to start so then you can reinforce the fact that they're starting. Thank you for listening. Because you're trying to get them to listen to you.

Yes.

Yes.

Absolutely.

Absolutely.

You're supposed to go with them. And nobody has time for that. That's our issue, right? We don't have time to go. I need you to go to your bedroom and make your bed. Actually, you go to the setting where you want the behavior to occur in order to increase the chances that the behavior will occur. So ABC, antecedent, behavior, consequence. Antecedent, we're going to go to the kid's room.

You're supposed to go with them. And nobody has time for that. That's our issue, right? We don't have time to go. I need you to go to your bedroom and make your bed. Actually, you go to the setting where you want the behavior to occur in order to increase the chances that the behavior will occur. So ABC, antecedent, behavior, consequence. Antecedent, we're going to go to the kid's room.

We're going to say, if you're going to give some information, you give it now. I need you to make your bed. The room's a mess. You don't have to throw in the room's a mess, but I need you to make your bed.

We're going to say, if you're going to give some information, you give it now. I need you to make your bed. The room's a mess. You don't have to throw in the room's a mess, but I need you to make your bed.

The room's a mess. I need you to make your bed. Please make your bed. And you can say please because it models a social skill, being polite when you make a command. And it's not a question. It's not like, are we ready to clean up the room? It's like a question. No, it's a command. So this is not gentle parenting where it's like, oh, I'm being nice to the kid for the sake of being nice. Got it?

The room's a mess. I need you to make your bed. Please make your bed. And you can say please because it models a social skill, being polite when you make a command. And it's not a question. It's not like, are we ready to clean up the room? It's like a question. No, it's a command. So this is not gentle parenting where it's like, oh, I'm being nice to the kid for the sake of being nice. Got it?

There's a difference. So please make the bed. You wait. You say nothing. The kid starts to make the bed. Great job, listener. I'll be back in two minutes. You think you could get this done in two minutes? Like, make it a little game. Kid's like, yeah, I got this in two minutes. You go.

There's a difference. So please make the bed. You wait. You say nothing. The kid starts to make the bed. Great job, listener. I'll be back in two minutes. You think you could get this done in two minutes? Like, make it a little game. Kid's like, yeah, I got this in two minutes. You go.

Gamifying tasks that are non-desirable or non-reinforcing is a big thing for people with ADHD. You set that timer. You see if you can beat it. So back to the kid. We want something done. We have to do the command in a setting where we want it done. If you do it from afar with multiple parts, they're going to lose it.

Gamifying tasks that are non-desirable or non-reinforcing is a big thing for people with ADHD. You set that timer. You see if you can beat it. So back to the kid. We want something done. We have to do the command in a setting where we want it done. If you do it from afar with multiple parts, they're going to lose it.