Dr. Lauren Streicher

Sex ed, we know, is all about how not to get pregnant or get an STI.

It has something to do with pleasure.

But the guys are not taught that.

The guys are taught you should have pleasure.

So that's part of the problem is that there isn't the expectation.

So are they upset?

I think the ones that expect pleasure are the ones who know how to have pleasure.

So older women, different story.

The first step is unless you're running a sexual medicine clinic, the likelihood of that happening is about zero.

Let's be honest.

How many of patients when you were doing general OBGYN walked in your door and said, Hey, Dr. Haver, I can't have an orgasm.

Will you help me?

I call vibrators tools, not toys, because toys implies that it's going to give you additional pleasure and it's going to make pleasure possible.

A tool is something that makes having an orgasm possible.

So let's call them tools because I think that also really is...

kind of just empowering to women to say, you know, if I can't swim and I'm going to go on a life raft to get me to have fun in the water, well, if I can't have an orgasm, then I'm going to use this tool to facilitate my ability to have an orgasm.

Why did vibration work when nothing else does?

Let me back up because so often a woman will come to the clinic and say, I can't have an orgasm anymore.

And I'll say, well, how about when you use your vibrator?

And she'll say, well, of course, if I use my vibrator, I can.