Dr. Laurie Santos

Yeah. And I think we, you know, we get that wrong. Like, I think our instinct, again, is this idea that while there's some negative emotion, I should run away from that or the right move would be to sort of suppress it, you know, stiff upper lip.

Yeah. And I think we, you know, we get that wrong. Like, I think our instinct, again, is this idea that while there's some negative emotion, I should run away from that or the right move would be to sort of suppress it, you know, stiff upper lip.

Yeah. And I think we, you know, we get that wrong. Like, I think our instinct, again, is this idea that while there's some negative emotion, I should run away from that or the right move would be to sort of suppress it, you know, stiff upper lip.

But there's evidence from James Gross at Stanford that the act of suppressing our emotions can lead to things like increased cardiac stress or even can cause us to have some problems with memory and decision making. You do worse on a memory test when you're trying to suppress some negative emotion. Hmm. So it has negative costs.

But there's evidence from James Gross at Stanford that the act of suppressing our emotions can lead to things like increased cardiac stress or even can cause us to have some problems with memory and decision making. You do worse on a memory test when you're trying to suppress some negative emotion. Hmm. So it has negative costs.

But there's evidence from James Gross at Stanford that the act of suppressing our emotions can lead to things like increased cardiac stress or even can cause us to have some problems with memory and decision making. You do worse on a memory test when you're trying to suppress some negative emotion. Hmm. So it has negative costs.

We're much better off if we can find ways to regulate and allow those emotions, right, to experience them, give them some time and then be self-compassionate and nurture ourselves through them.

We're much better off if we can find ways to regulate and allow those emotions, right, to experience them, give them some time and then be self-compassionate and nurture ourselves through them.

We're much better off if we can find ways to regulate and allow those emotions, right, to experience them, give them some time and then be self-compassionate and nurture ourselves through them.

All the time. I mean, you know, as we've been talking about, like our minds lie to us all the time about this stuff. I mean, the biggest one, the one that my students fall prey to so much is that happiness is about circumstances. You know, that happiness is about money in particular.

All the time. I mean, you know, as we've been talking about, like our minds lie to us all the time about this stuff. I mean, the biggest one, the one that my students fall prey to so much is that happiness is about circumstances. You know, that happiness is about money in particular.

All the time. I mean, you know, as we've been talking about, like our minds lie to us all the time about this stuff. I mean, the biggest one, the one that my students fall prey to so much is that happiness is about circumstances. You know, that happiness is about money in particular.

My Yale students were all thinking about what job they want to get when they get out of this Ivy League university and what salary they're going to get and things. Now you tell them that.

My Yale students were all thinking about what job they want to get when they get out of this Ivy League university and what salary they're going to get and things. Now you tell them that.

My Yale students were all thinking about what job they want to get when they get out of this Ivy League university and what salary they're going to get and things. Now you tell them that.

after a certain reasonable middle class income money doesn't matter for happiness anymore and they want to fight you on it they're like well you know what if i spent it differently or what if i went on vacation to these places over and over again you're like nope doesn't count like or at the very least it's not so much that money doesn't matter for happiness it's just there are so many other things you could focus on that matter much much more you know maybe yeah you know if you go up like that minuscule amount if you put all this work in and all this time in to earn more

after a certain reasonable middle class income money doesn't matter for happiness anymore and they want to fight you on it they're like well you know what if i spent it differently or what if i went on vacation to these places over and over again you're like nope doesn't count like or at the very least it's not so much that money doesn't matter for happiness it's just there are so many other things you could focus on that matter much much more you know maybe yeah you know if you go up like that minuscule amount if you put all this work in and all this time in to earn more

after a certain reasonable middle class income money doesn't matter for happiness anymore and they want to fight you on it they're like well you know what if i spent it differently or what if i went on vacation to these places over and over again you're like nope doesn't count like or at the very least it's not so much that money doesn't matter for happiness it's just there are so many other things you could focus on that matter much much more you know maybe yeah you know if you go up like that minuscule amount if you put all this work in and all this time in to earn more

Maybe you get a teeny bump, maybe, maybe not. But like if you just wrote down three things you're grateful for, that would work way more effectively. Like we know that empirically.

Maybe you get a teeny bump, maybe, maybe not. But like if you just wrote down three things you're grateful for, that would work way more effectively. Like we know that empirically.