Dr. Laurie Santos

You're showing emotions that aren't just a little bit less happy.

You're showing emotions that aren't just a little bit less happy.

You're showing actively terrible negative emotions.

You're showing actively terrible negative emotions.

Why?

Why?

It's not because you didn't do well.

It's not because you didn't do well.

You're objectively second best in the world.

You're objectively second best in the world.

But because you set this expectation of only gold is going to matter, now you feel terrible.

But because you set this expectation of only gold is going to matter, now you feel terrible.

So maybe you didn't get the promotion, but you did really well.

So maybe you didn't get the promotion, but you did really well.

And your boss was like, you know, we couldn't pick everyone, but now we're going to get a salary raise even though you don't get their promotions.

And your boss was like, you know, we couldn't pick everyone, but now we're going to get a salary raise even though you don't get their promotions.

Like none of those things will feel good just because you were so focused on this one thing, right?

Like none of those things will feel good just because you were so focused on this one thing, right?

That's if you focus on the goal at the end.

That's if you focus on the goal at the end.