Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson

when we're going to take ourselves out of the interaction so that we don't get taken over by it. That is within our power. I would tell people to grow in their own style. If you're a sweet, nice person, you don't have to turn yourself into some assertive, commanding person. take-no-prisoners type in order to be successful at this.

when we're going to take ourselves out of the interaction so that we don't get taken over by it. That is within our power. I would tell people to grow in their own style. If you're a sweet, nice person, you don't have to turn yourself into some assertive, commanding person. take-no-prisoners type in order to be successful at this.

when we're going to take ourselves out of the interaction so that we don't get taken over by it. That is within our power. I would tell people to grow in their own style. If you're a sweet, nice person, you don't have to turn yourself into some assertive, commanding person. take-no-prisoners type in order to be successful at this.

You can be as sweet as you like, as long as your behavior is moving in the direction that you want to go in. So maybe you say, Mom, gee, I wish I could. I'm so sorry. I know you're disappointed. I just, you know, it's just not going to work for me this time. Now, some people would say, Just set a boundary. Just tell them you can't do it. Cut out all the song and dance.

You can be as sweet as you like, as long as your behavior is moving in the direction that you want to go in. So maybe you say, Mom, gee, I wish I could. I'm so sorry. I know you're disappointed. I just, you know, it's just not going to work for me this time. Now, some people would say, Just set a boundary. Just tell them you can't do it. Cut out all the song and dance.

You can be as sweet as you like, as long as your behavior is moving in the direction that you want to go in. So maybe you say, Mom, gee, I wish I could. I'm so sorry. I know you're disappointed. I just, you know, it's just not going to work for me this time. Now, some people would say, Just set a boundary. Just tell them you can't do it. Cut out all the song and dance.

But for a lot of people, that's impossible. So keep your style. Grow in the way that feels like you can be yourself. I think we should have more people who want to be sweet and nice, not fewer. And then the other thing is that... you know, we're never going to get rid of the parts of ourself that we're unhappy about. But our job is to learn how to work with them and how to support them.

But for a lot of people, that's impossible. So keep your style. Grow in the way that feels like you can be yourself. I think we should have more people who want to be sweet and nice, not fewer. And then the other thing is that... you know, we're never going to get rid of the parts of ourself that we're unhappy about. But our job is to learn how to work with them and how to support them.

But for a lot of people, that's impossible. So keep your style. Grow in the way that feels like you can be yourself. I think we should have more people who want to be sweet and nice, not fewer. And then the other thing is that... you know, we're never going to get rid of the parts of ourself that we're unhappy about. But our job is to learn how to work with them and how to support them.

And really, most of all, to have a compassionate attitude toward yourself that you did the best you could and you're continuing to try to do the best that you can. But it's not kind, it's not self-kindness to say, I want to get rid of this part, or I want to get rid of the part that feels guilty. No, take care of that part. That part keeps you honest about how you treat other people.

And really, most of all, to have a compassionate attitude toward yourself that you did the best you could and you're continuing to try to do the best that you can. But it's not kind, it's not self-kindness to say, I want to get rid of this part, or I want to get rid of the part that feels guilty. No, take care of that part. That part keeps you honest about how you treat other people.

And really, most of all, to have a compassionate attitude toward yourself that you did the best you could and you're continuing to try to do the best that you can. But it's not kind, it's not self-kindness to say, I want to get rid of this part, or I want to get rid of the part that feels guilty. No, take care of that part. That part keeps you honest about how you treat other people.

It's got a whole good side to it. So you can look at just how you can nudge it toward helping you to have better boundaries or whatever. But don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.

It's got a whole good side to it. So you can look at just how you can nudge it toward helping you to have better boundaries or whatever. But don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.

It's got a whole good side to it. So you can look at just how you can nudge it toward helping you to have better boundaries or whatever. But don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.

Dr. Gibson, what are your parting words? Trust that you came factory equipped with the ability to tell who is good for you and who is not. And then please follow that for your own growth and all that you'll be able to give other people once you've taken care of yourself in that way.

Dr. Gibson, what are your parting words? Trust that you came factory equipped with the ability to tell who is good for you and who is not. And then please follow that for your own growth and all that you'll be able to give other people once you've taken care of yourself in that way.

Dr. Gibson, what are your parting words? Trust that you came factory equipped with the ability to tell who is good for you and who is not. And then please follow that for your own growth and all that you'll be able to give other people once you've taken care of yourself in that way.

Oh, thank you, Mel. It's been a pleasure being with you. Thank you.

Oh, thank you, Mel. It's been a pleasure being with you. Thank you.