Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson

And they will say, you know, why does this bother you? Why are you getting so upset? But they are like the most emotionally sensitive people on this planet. And when you get that kind of feedback, you begin to feel like, well, maybe there's something wrong.

And they will say, you know, why does this bother you? Why are you getting so upset? But they are like the most emotionally sensitive people on this planet. And when you get that kind of feedback, you begin to feel like, well, maybe there's something wrong.

And they will say, you know, why does this bother you? Why are you getting so upset? But they are like the most emotionally sensitive people on this planet. And when you get that kind of feedback, you begin to feel like, well, maybe there's something wrong.

And so when you pick up on those things, that's the first thing that comes to my mind is where did you learn to think like that, that your first go-to thought is, is, I'm doing something wrong. Oh, it's my fault. I didn't notice soon enough that this was going to offend you, or I wasn't sensitive enough to your needs, and now you're mad at me and not speaking to me for three days.

And so when you pick up on those things, that's the first thing that comes to my mind is where did you learn to think like that, that your first go-to thought is, is, I'm doing something wrong. Oh, it's my fault. I didn't notice soon enough that this was going to offend you, or I wasn't sensitive enough to your needs, and now you're mad at me and not speaking to me for three days.

And so when you pick up on those things, that's the first thing that comes to my mind is where did you learn to think like that, that your first go-to thought is, is, I'm doing something wrong. Oh, it's my fault. I didn't notice soon enough that this was going to offend you, or I wasn't sensitive enough to your needs, and now you're mad at me and not speaking to me for three days.

But why does your mind go to, what did I do like that? And one of the things that maintains that is they do this thing where you feel a moral obligation to give them what they want, even at great cost to yourself, even to the extent that it may harm your health or your mental health. I've seen this with so many of my clients.

But why does your mind go to, what did I do like that? And one of the things that maintains that is they do this thing where you feel a moral obligation to give them what they want, even at great cost to yourself, even to the extent that it may harm your health or your mental health. I've seen this with so many of my clients.

But why does your mind go to, what did I do like that? And one of the things that maintains that is they do this thing where you feel a moral obligation to give them what they want, even at great cost to yourself, even to the extent that it may harm your health or your mental health. I've seen this with so many of my clients.

Well, let's just start by saying overall, you might find them exhausting. Dead giveaway. Tiring, boring, because they tend to be quite superficial. They're very easily threatened. Their psychological defenses are not very sturdy. So they tend to keep things at a kind of a superficial level. It's like the how is the weather sort of thing, or what is Aunt So-and-So doing lately?

Well, let's just start by saying overall, you might find them exhausting. Dead giveaway. Tiring, boring, because they tend to be quite superficial. They're very easily threatened. Their psychological defenses are not very sturdy. So they tend to keep things at a kind of a superficial level. It's like the how is the weather sort of thing, or what is Aunt So-and-So doing lately?

Well, let's just start by saying overall, you might find them exhausting. Dead giveaway. Tiring, boring, because they tend to be quite superficial. They're very easily threatened. Their psychological defenses are not very sturdy. So they tend to keep things at a kind of a superficial level. It's like the how is the weather sort of thing, or what is Aunt So-and-So doing lately?

Because that's where they feel safe. Because emotional genuineness, emotional depth makes them very uneasy. And I'm not talking about a little bit nervous. I'm talking about destabilizing. You know, people... keep trying to talk to their parent and get them to understand how they're feeling. Well, this is like asking an emotionally immature parent to keep their hand on a hot stove.

Because that's where they feel safe. Because emotional genuineness, emotional depth makes them very uneasy. And I'm not talking about a little bit nervous. I'm talking about destabilizing. You know, people... keep trying to talk to their parent and get them to understand how they're feeling. Well, this is like asking an emotionally immature parent to keep their hand on a hot stove.

Because that's where they feel safe. Because emotional genuineness, emotional depth makes them very uneasy. And I'm not talking about a little bit nervous. I'm talking about destabilizing. You know, people... keep trying to talk to their parent and get them to understand how they're feeling. Well, this is like asking an emotionally immature parent to keep their hand on a hot stove.

They cannot do it. It's not because they are bad or they don't want to help their child. It's because it is so painfully destabilizing that they can't stand it. And that's something that I try to get across so that the person doesn't take it so personally. Maybe they would if they could, but they can't. They're going to change the subject. They're going to put it back on you.

They cannot do it. It's not because they are bad or they don't want to help their child. It's because it is so painfully destabilizing that they can't stand it. And that's something that I try to get across so that the person doesn't take it so personally. Maybe they would if they could, but they can't. They're going to change the subject. They're going to put it back on you.

They cannot do it. It's not because they are bad or they don't want to help their child. It's because it is so painfully destabilizing that they can't stand it. And that's something that I try to get across so that the person doesn't take it so personally. Maybe they would if they could, but they can't. They're going to change the subject. They're going to put it back on you.

They're going to give excuses. They're going to not understand what the heck you're talking about. That Difficulty in going into any kind of complexity or depth is something that ends up making people feel bored, exhausted. And also because there's a constant expectation that you're going to be a certain way for them.

They're going to give excuses. They're going to not understand what the heck you're talking about. That Difficulty in going into any kind of complexity or depth is something that ends up making people feel bored, exhausted. And also because there's a constant expectation that you're going to be a certain way for them.