Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson

They're going to give excuses. They're going to not understand what the heck you're talking about. That Difficulty in going into any kind of complexity or depth is something that ends up making people feel bored, exhausted. And also because there's a constant expectation that you're going to be a certain way for them.

So you're going to agree with them, you're going to see things the same way as they do, and... That is very tiring because you're always feeling like you're having to play this role if you're going to get along with them. All of this comes from their egocentrism, meaning all roads lead to them.

So you're going to agree with them, you're going to see things the same way as they do, and... That is very tiring because you're always feeling like you're having to play this role if you're going to get along with them. All of this comes from their egocentrism, meaning all roads lead to them.

So you're going to agree with them, you're going to see things the same way as they do, and... That is very tiring because you're always feeling like you're having to play this role if you're going to get along with them. All of this comes from their egocentrism, meaning all roads lead to them.

Yeah, I would want them to know that it's going to have an effect on them, whether they've ever heard of this or not. Because if we're treated like we are insignificant or that we're not real inside, we feel that. It's like if somebody steps on your foot, you feel that. We do the same thing emotionally. When people disregard us or treat us like we're not important, that has an effect on us.

Yeah, I would want them to know that it's going to have an effect on them, whether they've ever heard of this or not. Because if we're treated like we are insignificant or that we're not real inside, we feel that. It's like if somebody steps on your foot, you feel that. We do the same thing emotionally. When people disregard us or treat us like we're not important, that has an effect on us.

Yeah, I would want them to know that it's going to have an effect on them, whether they've ever heard of this or not. Because if we're treated like we are insignificant or that we're not real inside, we feel that. It's like if somebody steps on your foot, you feel that. We do the same thing emotionally. When people disregard us or treat us like we're not important, that has an effect on us.

And because, you know, such a huge amount of our learning is unconscious in childhood. We carry it forward and then we take it as, you know, what we've learned and it's a part of us and we give it to our children.

And because, you know, such a huge amount of our learning is unconscious in childhood. We carry it forward and then we take it as, you know, what we've learned and it's a part of us and we give it to our children.

And because, you know, such a huge amount of our learning is unconscious in childhood. We carry it forward and then we take it as, you know, what we've learned and it's a part of us and we give it to our children.

Yeah, that's the parent that emotionally rules the roost with their moods, with their reactions. Everybody orbits them. That's when dad comes home, everybody be quiet. Dad needs to relax. Mom's having a bad day. Don't anybody upset her. Mom's gone to bed for the week. Nobody make any noise. Everything is geared toward helping that parent regulate their emotional state.

Yeah, that's the parent that emotionally rules the roost with their moods, with their reactions. Everybody orbits them. That's when dad comes home, everybody be quiet. Dad needs to relax. Mom's having a bad day. Don't anybody upset her. Mom's gone to bed for the week. Nobody make any noise. Everything is geared toward helping that parent regulate their emotional state.

Yeah, that's the parent that emotionally rules the roost with their moods, with their reactions. Everybody orbits them. That's when dad comes home, everybody be quiet. Dad needs to relax. Mom's having a bad day. Don't anybody upset her. Mom's gone to bed for the week. Nobody make any noise. Everything is geared toward helping that parent regulate their emotional state.

through controlling your behavior, suppressing yourself, inhibiting yourself, everything ends up being in the service of helping that parent feel calmer or feel better. So I call it the emotional parent because they tend to be very emotional and they can be, I mean, some of them can be extremely volatile. Some of them can be violent. Some of them can be even mentally ill, okay?

through controlling your behavior, suppressing yourself, inhibiting yourself, everything ends up being in the service of helping that parent feel calmer or feel better. So I call it the emotional parent because they tend to be very emotional and they can be, I mean, some of them can be extremely volatile. Some of them can be violent. Some of them can be even mentally ill, okay?

through controlling your behavior, suppressing yourself, inhibiting yourself, everything ends up being in the service of helping that parent feel calmer or feel better. So I call it the emotional parent because they tend to be very emotional and they can be, I mean, some of them can be extremely volatile. Some of them can be violent. Some of them can be even mentally ill, okay?

But the emotional parent will make you feel like, you know, like you got to be vigilant. You got to be checking every second how they're doing, taking their temperature, so to speak. And the whole family does this. And often, the other parent colludes with this by being sort of the supporter and supporting

But the emotional parent will make you feel like, you know, like you got to be vigilant. You got to be checking every second how they're doing, taking their temperature, so to speak. And the whole family does this. And often, the other parent colludes with this by being sort of the supporter and supporting

But the emotional parent will make you feel like, you know, like you got to be vigilant. You got to be checking every second how they're doing, taking their temperature, so to speak. And the whole family does this. And often, the other parent colludes with this by being sort of the supporter and supporting

talking to the children as though it's the children's responsibility to make sure that mom or dad is staying calm. Whose responsibility is it that mom or dad stay calm? It's the emotional parent's responsibility. We all have the responsibility of managing our own emotions. That's how I look at it. Same. But lots of times emotional parents run right over their mate and