Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson

talking to the children as though it's the children's responsibility to make sure that mom or dad is staying calm. Whose responsibility is it that mom or dad stay calm? It's the emotional parent's responsibility. We all have the responsibility of managing our own emotions. That's how I look at it. Same. But lots of times emotional parents run right over their mate and

talking to the children as though it's the children's responsibility to make sure that mom or dad is staying calm. Whose responsibility is it that mom or dad stay calm? It's the emotional parent's responsibility. We all have the responsibility of managing our own emotions. That's how I look at it. Same. But lots of times emotional parents run right over their mate and

and end up with one of the passive parents that we'll talk about in a minute as someone who just doesn't protect the children from them.

and end up with one of the passive parents that we'll talk about in a minute as someone who just doesn't protect the children from them.

and end up with one of the passive parents that we'll talk about in a minute as someone who just doesn't protect the children from them.

you become very vigilant to how the other person is doing. So everything revolves around the feeling state of the other person. You will be very alert, very vigilant, very tired, because you're always having to guess at what could upset them. You're always having to kind of keep them on an even keel. And if you live with someone, you know how to do this. You know when they need a little boost.

you become very vigilant to how the other person is doing. So everything revolves around the feeling state of the other person. You will be very alert, very vigilant, very tired, because you're always having to guess at what could upset them. You're always having to kind of keep them on an even keel. And if you live with someone, you know how to do this. You know when they need a little boost.

you become very vigilant to how the other person is doing. So everything revolves around the feeling state of the other person. You will be very alert, very vigilant, very tired, because you're always having to guess at what could upset them. You're always having to kind of keep them on an even keel. And if you live with someone, you know how to do this. You know when they need a little boost.

You know when not to bring the thing up that you need to talk to them about. So it really does flow downstream so that in your dating relationships or your committed relationships, you're going to just assume that they need a lot of help dealing with their emotions, even if they don't.

You know when not to bring the thing up that you need to talk to them about. So it really does flow downstream so that in your dating relationships or your committed relationships, you're going to just assume that they need a lot of help dealing with their emotions, even if they don't.

You know when not to bring the thing up that you need to talk to them about. So it really does flow downstream so that in your dating relationships or your committed relationships, you're going to just assume that they need a lot of help dealing with their emotions, even if they don't.

Yes. And the feeling is, did I do something wrong?

Yes. And the feeling is, did I do something wrong?

Yes. And the feeling is, did I do something wrong?

Or have I been bad? Yes. Okay. That gets conditioned in there in a very deep way. with parents like that.

Or have I been bad? Yes. Okay. That gets conditioned in there in a very deep way. with parents like that.

Or have I been bad? Yes. Okay. That gets conditioned in there in a very deep way. with parents like that.

Yeah, the driven parent is, in many ways, one of the most popular versions of parenthood, at least in our driven culture, right? where things are so materialistic and so measured in terms of success, the metrics of success. These parents look like paragons of parenting, and we can compare ourselves to them because we're

Yeah, the driven parent is, in many ways, one of the most popular versions of parenthood, at least in our driven culture, right? where things are so materialistic and so measured in terms of success, the metrics of success. These parents look like paragons of parenting, and we can compare ourselves to them because we're

Yeah, the driven parent is, in many ways, one of the most popular versions of parenthood, at least in our driven culture, right? where things are so materialistic and so measured in terms of success, the metrics of success. These parents look like paragons of parenting, and we can compare ourselves to them because we're