Dr. Louise Newson

Often people have, everyone's experience is different.

So the symptoms can be different and, you know, they, it can be really difficult.

I've had some patients who you've just treated one of them and they feel really well.

And then the other one maybe is a bit younger or different and then starts, but then they can recognize it a lot quicker.

But it's very difficult and it can be very disconcerting because it's also very hard to tease out, you know, is it because, you know, I've been with my husband for decades?

Is it because of that?

Or is it because of hormones?

Or is it something else?

And if you've got children, then how do you know what's going on?

Because life's busy and everything.

But one of my big issues is that women have often been gaslit and told, oh, you're like this because you're stressed, because you've got three children, because you're working full time, because, because.

They never say that to my husband.

Right.

And it's like, hang on, I've always coped with having three children and a busy job.

So something else has changed.

And then I think if people realize that it could be a hormonal imbalance, the next thing is thinking about what can I do about the imbalance?

Because women shouldn't be suffering and neither should the men who are watching them suffer, really.

So that's the biggest problem is that the majority of women who are perimenopausal are still not able to access evidence-based treatment, which is just wrong.

So there's all this needless suffering that's going on and women have to work it out for themselves.

doesn't hate me you know yeah because then it's like but yeah i mean i see i see it happening more um which is good i mean i didn't know about it until my wife was going through it i'd never heard of the word i heard a menopause i never heard the word perry no no a lot of people don't but it is interesting because it can work both ways in relationships i remember many years ago a lady came back to me and she said i'd like to thank you because i've now divorced my husband and i was like oh dear