Dr. Marc Brackett

Yeah, it's not cool.

Yeah, it's not cool.

It's easier because you don't have to feel the feelings. That's what it is. I can be psychologically distant from that person and say what I want to say, where if I have to say it face-to-face, I'm going to have to face a response, and that response may be very uncomfortable for me, and I probably don't have the strategies to deal with it because I never learned them.

It's easier because you don't have to feel the feelings. That's what it is. I can be psychologically distant from that person and say what I want to say, where if I have to say it face-to-face, I'm going to have to face a response, and that response may be very uncomfortable for me, and I probably don't have the strategies to deal with it because I never learned them.

It's easier because you don't have to feel the feelings. That's what it is. I can be psychologically distant from that person and say what I want to say, where if I have to say it face-to-face, I'm going to have to face a response, and that response may be very uncomfortable for me, and I probably don't have the strategies to deal with it because I never learned them.

Which is diminishing. You know, there was a good study done about kids in camps, and they randomly assigned them to be with their phones, not with their phones, and showed that after a couple of weeks of camp, kids who had their phones decreased in their emotion perception skills. So it makes a difference. You know, we need to Give children and adults more face-to-face time.

Which is diminishing. You know, there was a good study done about kids in camps, and they randomly assigned them to be with their phones, not with their phones, and showed that after a couple of weeks of camp, kids who had their phones decreased in their emotion perception skills. So it makes a difference. You know, we need to Give children and adults more face-to-face time.

Which is diminishing. You know, there was a good study done about kids in camps, and they randomly assigned them to be with their phones, not with their phones, and showed that after a couple of weeks of camp, kids who had their phones decreased in their emotion perception skills. So it makes a difference. You know, we need to Give children and adults more face-to-face time.

Yeah. So we have horizontal, we'll call that pleasantness. And this is going back to something else that we talked about earlier. It's called pleasantness, not goodness or badness. It's in this moment, am I feeling highly pleasant or Or am I feeling unpleasant? Do I feel like approaching my day, my colleagues? Do I feel like avoiding my colleagues? Do I feel safe and comfortable?

Yeah. So we have horizontal, we'll call that pleasantness. And this is going back to something else that we talked about earlier. It's called pleasantness, not goodness or badness. It's in this moment, am I feeling highly pleasant or Or am I feeling unpleasant? Do I feel like approaching my day, my colleagues? Do I feel like avoiding my colleagues? Do I feel safe and comfortable?

Yeah. So we have horizontal, we'll call that pleasantness. And this is going back to something else that we talked about earlier. It's called pleasantness, not goodness or badness. It's in this moment, am I feeling highly pleasant or Or am I feeling unpleasant? Do I feel like approaching my day, my colleagues? Do I feel like avoiding my colleagues? Do I feel safe and comfortable?

Do I feel uncomfortable? That's the x-axis. And the way I like to think about it is that from the moment we wake up in the morning until the time we go to bed, that is activated. We're just, you know, you wake up in the morning and you're all of a sudden in a thought process like, yes, I want to get out of bed. No, I want to pull the covers over my head. On the y-axis is energy or activation.

Do I feel uncomfortable? That's the x-axis. And the way I like to think about it is that from the moment we wake up in the morning until the time we go to bed, that is activated. We're just, you know, you wake up in the morning and you're all of a sudden in a thought process like, yes, I want to get out of bed. No, I want to pull the covers over my head. On the y-axis is energy or activation.

Do I feel uncomfortable? That's the x-axis. And the way I like to think about it is that from the moment we wake up in the morning until the time we go to bed, that is activated. We're just, you know, you wake up in the morning and you're all of a sudden in a thought process like, yes, I want to get out of bed. No, I want to pull the covers over my head. On the y-axis is energy or activation.

The technical term is arousal or activation, but I think energy is a better term. And so it's either you're highly energized or you're deactivated or low in energy. That's mental energy. It's physical energy. It's kind of like how much fuel you have. And then we cross those two axes to create what we call in our work the mood meter. And there are four quadrants.

The technical term is arousal or activation, but I think energy is a better term. And so it's either you're highly energized or you're deactivated or low in energy. That's mental energy. It's physical energy. It's kind of like how much fuel you have. And then we cross those two axes to create what we call in our work the mood meter. And there are four quadrants.

The technical term is arousal or activation, but I think energy is a better term. And so it's either you're highly energized or you're deactivated or low in energy. That's mental energy. It's physical energy. It's kind of like how much fuel you have. And then we cross those two axes to create what we call in our work the mood meter. And there are four quadrants.

We got high pleasant, high energy, yellow. So think about emotions there. Happy, excited, elated, ecstatic, optimistic. We got the green. So that's low energy and pleasant still. That's the calm, content, tranquil, peaceful, relaxed quadrant. And then we have the unpleasant side. And I'm going to Repeat myself, it's not the bad emotions or the negative emotions.

We got high pleasant, high energy, yellow. So think about emotions there. Happy, excited, elated, ecstatic, optimistic. We got the green. So that's low energy and pleasant still. That's the calm, content, tranquil, peaceful, relaxed quadrant. And then we have the unpleasant side. And I'm going to Repeat myself, it's not the bad emotions or the negative emotions.

We got high pleasant, high energy, yellow. So think about emotions there. Happy, excited, elated, ecstatic, optimistic. We got the green. So that's low energy and pleasant still. That's the calm, content, tranquil, peaceful, relaxed quadrant. And then we have the unpleasant side. And I'm going to Repeat myself, it's not the bad emotions or the negative emotions.