Dr. Marielle Bouquet

And that usually is the way that I like to work with folks that are really kind of having a tough time with the fact that people before them didn't do the healing work and handed down pain that they now have to sort through in their lifetime.

And

In my work, I actually help a person to attend the funeral of the parents they wish they had.

I call those sets of parents their false family.

It's the family that they wish could have been, the family that they envisioned when they were little, like,

These are my actual parents, which never were.

They were actually flawed human beings that, you know, went about life, maybe hurting you, maybe not.

But it's important that we step out of that false illusion of the parents that we manufactured in our heads.

And we step into what I call our true family, which is the family that we see in front of us.

The family that potentially can invalidate us.

The family that, you know, maybe won't be ready to listen to the wounds that they've caused.

The family that is real, right?

Not the family that we manufactured.

Siblings can actually engage in generational healing work together.

And it can be incredibly powerful because siblings, although no two siblings ever have the same parents or exist together,

really in the same household, right?

What do you mean by that?

Well, you know, siblings, people can have different birth order.

Sometimes, you know, eldest daughters tend to take on a lot of responsibility, right?

And so they may be probably holding on to a lot more emotional weight in the family than maybe a younger sibling.