Dr. Martha Beck

And I believe that is the state in which we are meant to spend almost all our time. And I think that would transform our consciousness.

Yeah. Well, it's conditioned by the way the brain works. It works very differently in pubescent girls than it does in, say, adult men. Young adult men, their brains work very differently from elders. That's why in traditional societies, the young man would be – herded together. And sometimes, for example, in some cultures, their faces would be obscured. They would leave their name behind.

Yeah. Well, it's conditioned by the way the brain works. It works very differently in pubescent girls than it does in, say, adult men. Young adult men, their brains work very differently from elders. That's why in traditional societies, the young man would be – herded together. And sometimes, for example, in some cultures, their faces would be obscured. They would leave their name behind.

They would leave all the possessions they had or burn them. And they would be taken into the wilderness by the elders. And the elders would proceed to scare the living daylights out of them, making strange noises in the brush, putting them through a kind of trial And the result of this is it kind of disintegrates the ego.

They would leave all the possessions they had or burn them. And they would be taken into the wilderness by the elders. And the elders would proceed to scare the living daylights out of them, making strange noises in the brush, putting them through a kind of trial And the result of this is it kind of disintegrates the ego.

And you still see it in like if you see movies about the army and how the tough but hard of gold sergeant breaks down the young soldier's egos so that they finally say, okay, I am not the center of the universe. I need my brothers to exist. And I am. I bow down in the face of nature, which is greater than I am. And then the elders say, all right, now you're ready to be a man.

And you still see it in like if you see movies about the army and how the tough but hard of gold sergeant breaks down the young soldier's egos so that they finally say, okay, I am not the center of the universe. I need my brothers to exist. And I am. I bow down in the face of nature, which is greater than I am. And then the elders say, all right, now you're ready to be a man.

Go back to the village and tell people your new name, which you get to choose. Young girls at puberty go through the opposite experience in many cultures. They are isolated in places away from all humans. Because the primary psychological task, according to some theories, of males is that they're born sort of differentiated and very individual.

Go back to the village and tell people your new name, which you get to choose. Young girls at puberty go through the opposite experience in many cultures. They are isolated in places away from all humans. Because the primary psychological task, according to some theories, of males is that they're born sort of differentiated and very individual.

And they need to learn to integrate with other people to be whole. Females tend to be born, or people identified as female, are born very integrated. And the task of female maturation is to individuate. So young girls who haven't, they're just at the stage where they need to find out who they are as an individual.

And they need to learn to integrate with other people to be whole. Females tend to be born, or people identified as female, are born very integrated. And the task of female maturation is to individuate. So young girls who haven't, they're just at the stage where they need to find out who they are as an individual.

And instead, they're very integrated with networks of people who are psychologically attacking each other in ways that are extremely harmful to their psyche at that stage. In a traditional culture, they might be put in, say, a hut that was dark and given food every day, but you're in there by yourself until you learn, I'm okay. I can actually go inside myself and find the truth of who I am.

And instead, they're very integrated with networks of people who are psychologically attacking each other in ways that are extremely harmful to their psyche at that stage. In a traditional culture, they might be put in, say, a hut that was dark and given food every day, but you're in there by yourself until you learn, I'm okay. I can actually go inside myself and find the truth of who I am.

On the other hand, the boys are out there going, ah, I can give up thinking I am...

On the other hand, the boys are out there going, ah, I can give up thinking I am...

all that and i can kneel in reverence at the oneness of it all and then they come back together and they've got a lot in common at that point because the men now realize they need people and the women now realize that they're in independence exactly and so each can understand the other better i mean the wisdom of these cultural traditions is incredible and we just don't have it

all that and i can kneel in reverence at the oneness of it all and then they come back together and they've got a lot in common at that point because the men now realize they need people and the women now realize that they're in independence exactly and so each can understand the other better i mean the wisdom of these cultural traditions is incredible and we just don't have it

we don't have it the the internet in particular spins out the the individuation of young men makes them feel like you know they do have bands of brothers but it's like we're under attack man and i really i'm gonna try to i have to achieve i'm gonna try it this way and i'm gonna try it that way and there's a lot of battle games and stuff but none of the humility that comes from the elders

we don't have it the the internet in particular spins out the the individuation of young men makes them feel like you know they do have bands of brothers but it's like we're under attack man and i really i'm gonna try to i have to achieve i'm gonna try it this way and i'm gonna try it that way and there's a lot of battle games and stuff but none of the humility that comes from the elders

And these young girls are just caught in whirlwinds of social toxicity when they might be taught to meditate. And we can still do all those things. We can still access those things