Dr. Mary Claire Haver

And then I get to about 48 and I'm like, OK, I think we're getting close to where we're going to be. And I'm totally suppressing my period. So I'm not taking the inactive pill. So I'm totally replaced all my hormones and shut it down. I felt better that way than PCOS. I was like, probably time to get off. See where we're at.

So I talked to my nurse practitioner who took care of me and was like, I'm gonna get off the pill. We're gonna get some blood work in a month and see where I'm at. She's like, cool. Very same time, my brother dies. So I have six brothers from the same parents. My oldest brother died when I was nine from leukemia. So I was a kid when that happened.

So I talked to my nurse practitioner who took care of me and was like, I'm gonna get off the pill. We're gonna get some blood work in a month and see where I'm at. She's like, cool. Very same time, my brother dies. So I have six brothers from the same parents. My oldest brother died when I was nine from leukemia. So I was a kid when that happened.

So I talked to my nurse practitioner who took care of me and was like, I'm gonna get off the pill. We're gonna get some blood work in a month and see where I'm at. She's like, cool. Very same time, my brother dies. So I have six brothers from the same parents. My oldest brother died when I was nine from leukemia. So I was a kid when that happened.

And then my next brother, Bob, had HIV and hepatitis. The HIV is actually really under control, but it was his liver just tanking, tanking, tanking. So I've stopped the pill, see where Mary Claire's at, and I'm in the OR. The phone's ringing, ringing, ringing. I'm like, get the phone. And they put it to my ear, and they're like, Bob's in a coma. You probably should start heading home.

And then my next brother, Bob, had HIV and hepatitis. The HIV is actually really under control, but it was his liver just tanking, tanking, tanking. So I've stopped the pill, see where Mary Claire's at, and I'm in the OR. The phone's ringing, ringing, ringing. I'm like, get the phone. And they put it to my ear, and they're like, Bob's in a coma. You probably should start heading home.

And then my next brother, Bob, had HIV and hepatitis. The HIV is actually really under control, but it was his liver just tanking, tanking, tanking. So I've stopped the pill, see where Mary Claire's at, and I'm in the OR. The phone's ringing, ringing, ringing. I'm like, get the phone. And they put it to my ear, and they're like, Bob's in a coma. You probably should start heading home.

Eventually. I had sat the kids down and said, you know, Uncle Bob's getting sicker, but not like today.

Eventually. I had sat the kids down and said, you know, Uncle Bob's getting sicker, but not like today.

Eventually. I had sat the kids down and said, you know, Uncle Bob's getting sicker, but not like today.

Yeah, I thought we had a year, two years. Anyway, my partner comes down, we get to a good part in the case, scrubs me out and I go and prepare to go home and figure all this out. So here I am grieving this horrible thing and I am in full on menopause, but I don't know it. I'm gaslighting myself. I'm attributing all the things to grief and certainly grief was a part of it.

Yeah, I thought we had a year, two years. Anyway, my partner comes down, we get to a good part in the case, scrubs me out and I go and prepare to go home and figure all this out. So here I am grieving this horrible thing and I am in full on menopause, but I don't know it. I'm gaslighting myself. I'm attributing all the things to grief and certainly grief was a part of it.

Yeah, I thought we had a year, two years. Anyway, my partner comes down, we get to a good part in the case, scrubs me out and I go and prepare to go home and figure all this out. So here I am grieving this horrible thing and I am in full on menopause, but I don't know it. I'm gaslighting myself. I'm attributing all the things to grief and certainly grief was a part of it.

But after like month six, I realized the grief is lifting. I'm not crying all the time on the way home. I'm like, when was your last period?

But after like month six, I realized the grief is lifting. I'm not crying all the time on the way home. I'm like, when was your last period?

But after like month six, I realized the grief is lifting. I'm not crying all the time on the way home. I'm like, when was your last period?

I didn't like menopause. I was like, ew. Right. I was like Samantha on Sex and the City, not the menopause. And so I was like, Dora, I'm going to come get the blood work now. And so we did everything. And sure enough, I was fully, fully menopausal. And that's detectable. Yeah. Check your estrogen. Check something called FSH. One's high, one's low. That's it.

I didn't like menopause. I was like, ew. Right. I was like Samantha on Sex and the City, not the menopause. And so I was like, Dora, I'm going to come get the blood work now. And so we did everything. And sure enough, I was fully, fully menopausal. And that's detectable. Yeah. Check your estrogen. Check something called FSH. One's high, one's low. That's it.

I didn't like menopause. I was like, ew. Right. I was like Samantha on Sex and the City, not the menopause. And so I was like, Dora, I'm going to come get the blood work now. And so we did everything. And sure enough, I was fully, fully menopausal. And that's detectable. Yeah. Check your estrogen. Check something called FSH. One's high, one's low. That's it.

Yeah. Perimenopause, no, we don't have that. Okay, that's what I was going to ask because I think I'm in it.