Dr. Mary Claire Haver

The way I approach conflict now is so different.

And I'm just so sad for them to have that kind of a mother.

But, you know.

I've gotten therapy.

I've done the work.

I've, you know, it's all so much better now, my relationship with them.

Um, I, I, I was going through a lot.

I was losing my, one of my best friends, my brother, you know, to a protracted illness.

Then my next brother got sick for with cancer and my dad was sick, you know, it was a lot and a lot for them to go through.

And then COVID hit, you know, I was perimenopausal, you know, kind of reaching into menopause during COVID.

And that was, you know, so a lot going on at that time.

I totally changed my priorities.

So I come first.

I have to take care of me.

My family.

physical wellness, my mental wellness, my, you know, spiritual wellness, I have to focus on me.

I don't come second or third or fourth.

I come first.

And that has made the huge difference.

So I prioritize my time first and then whatever's left goes to work and my children and my husband.