Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor

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don't know i just would want everyone i think hunter had it right yeah throw a big party absolutely and i think you are right in many cultures you know you think of the new orleans jazz funeral right there are many cultures where it is very celebratory and there is nothing wrong with wanting that

don't know i just would want everyone i think hunter had it right yeah throw a big party absolutely and i think you are right in many cultures you know you think of the new orleans jazz funeral right there are many cultures where it is very celebratory and there is nothing wrong with wanting that

don't know i just would want everyone i think hunter had it right yeah throw a big party absolutely and i think you are right in many cultures you know you think of the new orleans jazz funeral right there are many cultures where it is very celebratory and there is nothing wrong with wanting that

And there is nothing wrong with giving permission from beyond the grave to your friends and loved ones and family to feel that way. I will also say, you know, I also wish that childbirth wasn't painful, but it is, you know. So they're going to grieve because they are attached to you. It's just how it works. They don't get to pick.

And there is nothing wrong with giving permission from beyond the grave to your friends and loved ones and family to feel that way. I will also say, you know, I also wish that childbirth wasn't painful, but it is, you know. So they're going to grieve because they are attached to you. It's just how it works. They don't get to pick.

And there is nothing wrong with giving permission from beyond the grave to your friends and loved ones and family to feel that way. I will also say, you know, I also wish that childbirth wasn't painful, but it is, you know. So they're going to grieve because they are attached to you. It's just how it works. They don't get to pick.

I'm sorry. But I still think that it is valuable for them. I also think it's very valuable for you. So what you said was, are we all just so terrified? And yes, the answer is yes. Even research shows us something called terror management theory.

I'm sorry. But I still think that it is valuable for them. I also think it's very valuable for you. So what you said was, are we all just so terrified? And yes, the answer is yes. Even research shows us something called terror management theory.

I'm sorry. But I still think that it is valuable for them. I also think it's very valuable for you. So what you said was, are we all just so terrified? And yes, the answer is yes. Even research shows us something called terror management theory.

tells us that we are so terrified of dying that we have all these psychological ways that we avoid the reality that we all know is true, that we do all sorts of things to keep it out of sight, keep it out of mind. And one of the ways we can do that is by not writing about it, right, not talking about it. I had an experience when my mother was in the final stages of dying.

tells us that we are so terrified of dying that we have all these psychological ways that we avoid the reality that we all know is true, that we do all sorts of things to keep it out of sight, keep it out of mind. And one of the ways we can do that is by not writing about it, right, not talking about it. I had an experience when my mother was in the final stages of dying.

tells us that we are so terrified of dying that we have all these psychological ways that we avoid the reality that we all know is true, that we do all sorts of things to keep it out of sight, keep it out of mind. And one of the ways we can do that is by not writing about it, right, not talking about it. I had an experience when my mother was in the final stages of dying.

I was flying back and forth to this little tiny mountainous hometown over and over again because I was in graduate school at the time. And whenever there was turbulence, I would have a panic attack. Whenever the plane took off, whenever the plane landed, I would have a panic attack. And I worked with that for a long time. I was studying clinical psychology.

I was flying back and forth to this little tiny mountainous hometown over and over again because I was in graduate school at the time. And whenever there was turbulence, I would have a panic attack. Whenever the plane took off, whenever the plane landed, I would have a panic attack. And I worked with that for a long time. I was studying clinical psychology.

I was flying back and forth to this little tiny mountainous hometown over and over again because I was in graduate school at the time. And whenever there was turbulence, I would have a panic attack. Whenever the plane took off, whenever the plane landed, I would have a panic attack. And I worked with that for a long time. I was studying clinical psychology.

I knew the first and most important thing was not to avoid flying. The exposure of doing it again and again, as brutally painful as it was, was important. I never wanted to give up flying, give up that way of living. But at some point, as time went on, I realized I was terrified of dying. And I also realized that was going to happen.

I knew the first and most important thing was not to avoid flying. The exposure of doing it again and again, as brutally painful as it was, was important. I never wanted to give up flying, give up that way of living. But at some point, as time went on, I realized I was terrified of dying. And I also realized that was going to happen.