Dr. Meg Meeker

yeah so would i have it in the different uh have i waited too late no no no no no it's never too late but you but you do you you go and you say something like this you know honey i probably should have told you when you're earlier i didn't know what to do never had an adopted child but i need to tell you you were adopted

And, you know, and this is what happened and here's how you were chosen.

She's going to be mad because you've sort of in her mind lied to her all these years.

But that's where you ask her to forgive you for not knowing what to do and not having told her sooner.

But she'll be okay with that.

Yelling and crying and screaming.

It's okay.

It's okay.

i would say why don't we why don't we wait a while um it's your choice you sure can um meet your your parents but i think it's good to wait till you're 18 a little bit older and um do that if she's really insistent on meeting her parents yeah and i but but with close adoption i don't think you can until the child's 18. it's my understanding but yeah i i

Exactly.

I'd let her get adjusted.

What grade is she?

Yeah, she's got a lot on her plate.

I'd wait until her life kind of settles into a new rhythm.

You don't want to have too many changes at once.

I mean, you've waited this long.

What's waiting a few more months?

She's going to be okay.

She is going to be okay, and you are a great dad.

You know, just calling in and asking and being concerned, that's the most important thing.