Dr. Micaela

Well, I've been primarily talking about like love yourself, embrace your weaknesses.

So that's a huge journey.

But all of the things that I'm talking about are going to involve like.

extensive hard work which I roll my eyes at because like who wants to do that and it's so defeating every time we try something and then after we try it like three four times or even for like two three weeks it hasn't like reaped the benefit of

what we're like trying to get.

Right.

And so it's like one of those things that you and remember that in your brain, you've got like little tiny footpaths of the things that you're trying to do and you have to build those into highways or horse trails.

Right.

And so, yeah, that takes a lot of effort and a lot of time and a lot of repetition to build these new pathways in your brain, which is exhausting.

So that's my spoiler alert for no magic here.

And sorry, you do have to work hard, but you probably already have been.

Okay.

So thinking about like ADHD guilt and the whole, like when I get home or after the fact, or even, and the worst is when you lay down, because if you lay down, you're really trying to relax and go to sleep.

And if that's the moment that your brain is preying on you,

Now you can't sleep, which is going to make you more vulnerable to emotion dysregulation and is going to continue that spiraling experience.

So love that for us.

So a couple ideas.

Number one is you can actually preempt those voices from getting to take the mic away from you when you get home and actually strategically impose that on yourself, right?

So let's pretend that you hung out with friends and then you're going home and you know that at some point in time, those voices are gonna get really loud.

Maybe they already have been because there were minutes in between leaving friends and getting home, right?