Dr. Molly Burrets

But I was doing a lot of like figuring it out on my own, you know?

Yeah.

So I think boundaries are extremely important and you're allowed to change your boundaries as frequently and as often as you want.

So if it feels good to connect with people who are going through what you're going through, or it feels good to connect with someone who's pregnant because they make you feel like, okay, if that happened for her, it's possible for me too, then enrich that relationship, you know, and stay engaged.

But if it starts to feel bad, you can take a step back.

And I think you really have to pay attention to yourself and what you're feeling and let yourself respond accordingly.

If you pay attention, you will know how you feel.

And if you know how you feel, it is your job to then act accordingly.

So if you're hanging out with a friend who you know it makes you feel bad,

You know that.

It is your job then to have a boundary and maybe say, I love you so much.

I'm so happy for your success.

It's hard for me to be around it right now because it just brings up so much sadness in me.

I'm happy for you, but I'm already dealing with so much that I just need to take a temporary step back and take care of myself.

And I so hope that you will be there waiting for me when I'm ready again.

Because a real friend will.

No question.

A real friend will.

Yeah.

Someone who is not a real friend will be like, well, she can't even be happy for me.