Dr. Molly Burrets

But please don't forget that it was still a loss.

It's different for everyone.

And not everyone experiences abortion as loss.

But if someone feels that they need to forgive themselves for an abortion, then that tells me you experienced your abortion as a loss, right?

And a loss that you chose.

Maybe you would make the same choice over again.

Maybe you wouldn't.

I don't know.

But I think that you need to grieve the loss.

talk to yourself like you would a friend with compassion.

So you can say things like, you made the best choice you could with the circumstances and the information that you had at that time, right?

And, you know, it's hard because some people have no regret whatsoever about their abortion, and that is completely valid.

This woman sounds like there's a piece of her that, you know, at least has a part of shame and regret around it.

And I think grieving the loss and then being compassionate with yourself about you did the best that you could with the information, resources, and knowledge that you had then.

Because we're all just doing the best that we can.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So you can't go back and make a different choice from a place of being the person you are now.

You have to give yourself grace that you did the best that you could with what you had then.

And grieve the loss.