Dr. Nicole LePera

So, of course, right, there's kind of very generally speaking, that's kind of areas of development that we evolve through.

And of course, maybe listeners like, well, I didn't have safety and security.

What do you mean boundaries limits?

My goal then is to present a framework of what I call reparenting or simply stepping in, creating new habits and patterns, maybe being the steady, calming, nurturing caregiver that we didn't have, maybe creating limits or boundaries where we didn't have them, maybe for the first time learning how to reconnect with our own emotions so that we can be emotionally intimate with other people.

maybe taking off the masks of identity, not being our authentic self, instead being the overachiever or the caregiver so that we can express who we really are, then allowing us to be purposeful and passionate and joyful and creative.

And again, all of these things that I think we inherently are, but again, based on what was happening or not happening around us, including the people and relationships, a lot of us kind of haven't developed enough

the security that we need it to be those things.

Though again, through reparenting, we can create that now.

Yeah.

It's landing so much.

I have chills.

And of course, so I'm very generally speaking, but as you'll see in the book, I even map this on to development of certain brain areas, right, from our nervous system's ability to regulate, to create the safety and security some of us are lacking, to our limbic systems, our mirror neurons.

And so I'm mapping, again, the body foundationally because it's nice to know and understand what I just said, but my goal is to give the tools necessary

To do some relearning in the areas where we haven't developed the security that we always needed.

I think that things come to the surface when our attention shifts.

So the more time, space, the more familiar we are with life and patterns and the more attention kind of goes into – becomes available.

Let me word it that way.

the more than we are so quickly able to pay attention to the things that we've been distracted from, or even that we've been very, even physiologically protected against allowing to come to the surface.

So I think for physiological changes that happen as we age, I think lifestyle and life circumstance changes that happens as we age, that attention to some extent is freed up

That will then allow us sometimes, you know, even despite wanting that to be the case to then be met with stuff from long ago, stuff that we think we were already beyond.