Dr. Paul Conti

more goodness, more human goodness is always better.

And it keeps everything else in balance.

Like assertiveness, like too much assertiveness becomes over control.

Too little assertiveness can be learned helplessness, right?

So we want balance in the rest of us.

We want our unconscious mind to be in a healthy place.

We want to keep balance, our whole structure of self, our whole function of self.

We're trying to keep something that's living and breathing us and our mental health and our structure and function and drives.

We're trying to keep all this in balance.

The way to do that is to be governed by

what is core to our humanness, right?

And that's what saves us from cynicism, right?

And it's what leads us to realness, right?

It's not saying, just feel good about everything and everything will be okay.

It's the exact opposite.

If you approach life through the generative drive, then we will acknowledge to ourselves what isn't good, right?

And saying, okay, you know what?

I'm doing okay, except

I'm interfacing with the world in a way that I'm too irritable.

It's making this up.