Dr. Paul Conti

There's so much temptation to look outside of us.

If I feel upset, it's like, who am I upset at?

Who's making me upset?

What am I mad about in the world?

How is something else getting to me from outside?

And we have to bring the spotlight back to ourselves and say, okay, I don't have to be

I don't have to be afraid of looking at myself.

What is going on in me?

If I'm having conflict with another person, okay, what is that person bringing?

What am I bringing to the table?

What can I do to bring a solution state to this?

Or maybe I want to disengage, right?

I'm the person who has agency over me.

Let me try and understand myself as best I can so that I can solve

these problems, right?

So in bringing the spotlight, the idea is to help us be intentional and to remind us that we can look at ourselves and I don't need to be afraid to say, hey, if I want to really see who's behind most of what's not going right in my life, who has responsibility for most of it, I can go look in the mirror.

Right.

I can go look in the mirror and I'll see.

Right.

The answer to that is me.