Dr. Paul Conti

I'm going to call that person who I know I haven't called in a while.

It's that that's beckoning us towards what the rewards of life really are.

And when we talk to people who are older and are happy and can say, I'm happy with my life, you know, I'm 90 something years old and I know that I'm probably close to death, but that's okay with me.

Look at the life that I've lived.

Like there are people who say this, who feel this way and can express it quite eloquently.

And when they talk about their lives, this is what they're talking about, right?

They're leading intentional lives.

They have peace, contentment, the capacity for life.

delight.

They know that there are things that haven't gone well, but they accept that humanness in them.

And they are very intentionally guiding their lives forward.

And when you step back and say, what's really running the show here?

What's governing everything?

It's always the generative drive.

Not remarkably well.

I think I've done a moderately good job of it.

I haven't done a great job of it because it is very hard.

I think having built, being built and having been socialized in a certain way where I'm attaching my worth to some external achievement in the world around me, being happy with me, you know, I'm not entirely happy.

free of that.

Um, you know, and it's hard then what do I want to attach that way where I, I want to have an impact on the world.