Dr. Ramani Durvasula

There's a really thin-skinned sensitivity. They cannot bear up against any form of criticism, any form of feedback. They tend to envy other people or think other people envy them. Narcissistic people often view themselves as a victim. If things don't go their way, it feels like the world's, you know, unjustifiably coming after them.

There's a really thin-skinned sensitivity. They cannot bear up against any form of criticism, any form of feedback. They tend to envy other people or think other people envy them. Narcissistic people often view themselves as a victim. If things don't go their way, it feels like the world's, you know, unjustifiably coming after them.

There's a really thin-skinned sensitivity. They cannot bear up against any form of criticism, any form of feedback. They tend to envy other people or think other people envy them. Narcissistic people often view themselves as a victim. If things don't go their way, it feels like the world's, you know, unjustifiably coming after them.

But if the same thing happened to someone else, they would not frame it that way. But I'd have to say, if we had to pick one strand that defines narcissism, it's that entitlement. Now, all of the stuff I'm talking about, the entitlement, the grandiosity, the arrogance, all of it, These are defenses, they're grandiose defenses against a very core sense of insecurity and shame.

But if the same thing happened to someone else, they would not frame it that way. But I'd have to say, if we had to pick one strand that defines narcissism, it's that entitlement. Now, all of the stuff I'm talking about, the entitlement, the grandiosity, the arrogance, all of it, These are defenses, they're grandiose defenses against a very core sense of insecurity and shame.

But if the same thing happened to someone else, they would not frame it that way. But I'd have to say, if we had to pick one strand that defines narcissism, it's that entitlement. Now, all of the stuff I'm talking about, the entitlement, the grandiosity, the arrogance, all of it, These are defenses, they're grandiose defenses against a very core sense of insecurity and shame.

That's what's percolating, it's bubbling, it's like it's what's under the earth's crust. We don't see that all the time, but it's there. So anything that activates that shame, like they don't get the promotion, they don't get the sports car they want, their girlfriend breaks up with them, then we see that comes out as anger.

That's what's percolating, it's bubbling, it's like it's what's under the earth's crust. We don't see that all the time, but it's there. So anything that activates that shame, like they don't get the promotion, they don't get the sports car they want, their girlfriend breaks up with them, then we see that comes out as anger.

That's what's percolating, it's bubbling, it's like it's what's under the earth's crust. We don't see that all the time, but it's there. So anything that activates that shame, like they don't get the promotion, they don't get the sports car they want, their girlfriend breaks up with them, then we see that comes out as anger.

Whereas other people, when they experience shame, might experience sadness, they might experience guilt. The narcissistic person turns that into anger. So these are very antagonistic relationships. And the narcissistic person needs lots of supply. They have an excessive need for praise and admiration. So they're going out there all the time, getting it any way they can.

Whereas other people, when they experience shame, might experience sadness, they might experience guilt. The narcissistic person turns that into anger. So these are very antagonistic relationships. And the narcissistic person needs lots of supply. They have an excessive need for praise and admiration. So they're going out there all the time, getting it any way they can.

Whereas other people, when they experience shame, might experience sadness, they might experience guilt. The narcissistic person turns that into anger. So these are very antagonistic relationships. And the narcissistic person needs lots of supply. They have an excessive need for praise and admiration. So they're going out there all the time, getting it any way they can.

Now that means different things to different people. For some people, narcissistic supplies money. For some people, it's power. For some people, it's likes on social media. For some people, it's status. Depends on the person. And so they're going to go out and get that. And they'll often get that from other people. So that's what a narcissist is. Narcissism is on a continuum. At the low end, it's

Now that means different things to different people. For some people, narcissistic supplies money. For some people, it's power. For some people, it's likes on social media. For some people, it's status. Depends on the person. And so they're going to go out and get that. And they'll often get that from other people. So that's what a narcissist is. Narcissism is on a continuum. At the low end, it's

Now that means different things to different people. For some people, narcissistic supplies money. For some people, it's power. For some people, it's likes on social media. For some people, it's status. Depends on the person. And so they're going to go out and get that. And they'll often get that from other people. So that's what a narcissist is. Narcissism is on a continuum. At the low end, it's

emotional immaturity, emotional stuntedness, it's a, again, that constant selfish need for admiration and validation, their relationships don't go deep, I'd say at that low end of narcissism, it's annoying, you certainly wouldn't want to be raising kids with this person, you wouldn't have wanted to be raised by this person. But to anyone else, it might be sort of annoying, maybe at times harmless.

emotional immaturity, emotional stuntedness, it's a, again, that constant selfish need for admiration and validation, their relationships don't go deep, I'd say at that low end of narcissism, it's annoying, you certainly wouldn't want to be raising kids with this person, you wouldn't have wanted to be raised by this person. But to anyone else, it might be sort of annoying, maybe at times harmless.

emotional immaturity, emotional stuntedness, it's a, again, that constant selfish need for admiration and validation, their relationships don't go deep, I'd say at that low end of narcissism, it's annoying, you certainly wouldn't want to be raising kids with this person, you wouldn't have wanted to be raised by this person. But to anyone else, it might be sort of annoying, maybe at times harmless.

Now when you get to the far end of that continuum, to the severe end of narcissism, you're talking about malignant, exploitative, severely manipulative, isolating, coercive narcissism. Now we're talking about something dangerous. Obviously at that low and high end, the people in those relationships are having very different experiences. There are also multiple subtypes of narcissism.

Now when you get to the far end of that continuum, to the severe end of narcissism, you're talking about malignant, exploitative, severely manipulative, isolating, coercive narcissism. Now we're talking about something dangerous. Obviously at that low and high end, the people in those relationships are having very different experiences. There are also multiple subtypes of narcissism.