Dr. Ramani Durvasula

Now when you get to the far end of that continuum, to the severe end of narcissism, you're talking about malignant, exploitative, severely manipulative, isolating, coercive narcissism. Now we're talking about something dangerous. Obviously at that low and high end, the people in those relationships are having very different experiences. There are also multiple subtypes of narcissism.

And all this heterogeneity means that different people in different narcissistic relationships are sometimes having different experiences, but the core experience of a person in a narcissistic relationship is oftentimes confusion, self-blame and rumination.

And all this heterogeneity means that different people in different narcissistic relationships are sometimes having different experiences, but the core experience of a person in a narcissistic relationship is oftentimes confusion, self-blame and rumination.

And all this heterogeneity means that different people in different narcissistic relationships are sometimes having different experiences, but the core experience of a person in a narcissistic relationship is oftentimes confusion, self-blame and rumination.

Number one, slow down, slow way down. Because again, body and mind are so interesting, they need a minute, right? They really need a minute for you to be with someone, pay attention to that sense of psychological safety. In some ways it's also equally important for us to know how we feel in our bodies when we don't feel safe, right?

Number one, slow down, slow way down. Because again, body and mind are so interesting, they need a minute, right? They really need a minute for you to be with someone, pay attention to that sense of psychological safety. In some ways it's also equally important for us to know how we feel in our bodies when we don't feel safe, right?

Number one, slow down, slow way down. Because again, body and mind are so interesting, they need a minute, right? They really need a minute for you to be with someone, pay attention to that sense of psychological safety. In some ways it's also equally important for us to know how we feel in our bodies when we don't feel safe, right?

So if we're feeling that or we're not feeling that, like when we're with somebody who is safe and comfortable you're having a conversation characterized by reciprocity, your body relaxes. You find yourself like, oh, I'm not trying, I'm not being performative, I'm being myself versus... It's interesting, just I recently had an encounter with someone, I did not feel comfortable, I did not...

So if we're feeling that or we're not feeling that, like when we're with somebody who is safe and comfortable you're having a conversation characterized by reciprocity, your body relaxes. You find yourself like, oh, I'm not trying, I'm not being performative, I'm being myself versus... It's interesting, just I recently had an encounter with someone, I did not feel comfortable, I did not...

So if we're feeling that or we're not feeling that, like when we're with somebody who is safe and comfortable you're having a conversation characterized by reciprocity, your body relaxes. You find yourself like, oh, I'm not trying, I'm not being performative, I'm being myself versus... It's interesting, just I recently had an encounter with someone, I did not feel comfortable, I did not...

Even the way I was sitting, I was sitting almost like hunched over. Physiologically, my body was almost putting itself in an uncomfortable position. My head hurt at the end of the circumstances. This is somebody I do not want to see again. I now know that and that's now on my list of people I don't want to see again.

Even the way I was sitting, I was sitting almost like hunched over. Physiologically, my body was almost putting itself in an uncomfortable position. My head hurt at the end of the circumstances. This is somebody I do not want to see again. I now know that and that's now on my list of people I don't want to see again.

Even the way I was sitting, I was sitting almost like hunched over. Physiologically, my body was almost putting itself in an uncomfortable position. My head hurt at the end of the circumstances. This is somebody I do not want to see again. I now know that and that's now on my list of people I don't want to see again.

I very much learned to slow down and after the event where I'd usually just rush into my car, I sat in my event, I closed my eyes, I breathed, I paid attention to how my body feels. I'm like, okay, my head is killing me, my neck is killing me, my gut was killing me. All of that was not comfortable. And I'm going to use this as a contrast. Like right now, I'm enjoying this time with you.

I very much learned to slow down and after the event where I'd usually just rush into my car, I sat in my event, I closed my eyes, I breathed, I paid attention to how my body feels. I'm like, okay, my head is killing me, my neck is killing me, my gut was killing me. All of that was not comfortable. And I'm going to use this as a contrast. Like right now, I'm enjoying this time with you.

I very much learned to slow down and after the event where I'd usually just rush into my car, I sat in my event, I closed my eyes, I breathed, I paid attention to how my body feels. I'm like, okay, my head is killing me, my neck is killing me, my gut was killing me. All of that was not comfortable. And I'm going to use this as a contrast. Like right now, I'm enjoying this time with you.

I feel very much in my body. I feel like this is a very mutual interaction. See what I'm saying? So when I leave public, this felt like a very safe space to me. So we pay attention to that, number one. Number two, we have to have our good, safe people, right? Our sounding boards, our people who, when we go to them and say, I think I feel crazy. You'll say, you're not, you're not crazy.

I feel very much in my body. I feel like this is a very mutual interaction. See what I'm saying? So when I leave public, this felt like a very safe space to me. So we pay attention to that, number one. Number two, we have to have our good, safe people, right? Our sounding boards, our people who, when we go to them and say, I think I feel crazy. You'll say, you're not, you're not crazy.

I feel very much in my body. I feel like this is a very mutual interaction. See what I'm saying? So when I leave public, this felt like a very safe space to me. So we pay attention to that, number one. Number two, we have to have our good, safe people, right? Our sounding boards, our people who, when we go to them and say, I think I feel crazy. You'll say, you're not, you're not crazy.

Like talk to me and we'll, he'll listen to you. You don't need a lot. You don't need 50 people like that. If you even have one, two or three, you're doing great. One of them might even be a therapist, but have sounding boards. That's a huge piece to this sort of this, this idea of being discerning of, again, taking it slow, paying attention to your body.