Dr. Ramani Durvasula

Like talk to me and we'll, he'll listen to you. You don't need a lot. You don't need 50 people like that. If you even have one, two or three, you're doing great. One of them might even be a therapist, but have sounding boards. That's a huge piece to this sort of this, this idea of being discerning of, again, taking it slow, paying attention to your body.

Like talk to me and we'll, he'll listen to you. You don't need a lot. You don't need 50 people like that. If you even have one, two or three, you're doing great. One of them might even be a therapist, but have sounding boards. That's a huge piece to this sort of this, this idea of being discerning of, again, taking it slow, paying attention to your body.

Paying attention to what you're telling yourself. There was a time, this uncomfortable interaction I had, there was a time I would have thought, oh, Gramini, you can't get along with anyone or you're so unsophisticated or something like that. I'm like, no. I just didn't feel right. So part of that is giving yourself, you can't gaslight yourself. And I think we gaslight ourselves all the time.

Paying attention to what you're telling yourself. There was a time, this uncomfortable interaction I had, there was a time I would have thought, oh, Gramini, you can't get along with anyone or you're so unsophisticated or something like that. I'm like, no. I just didn't feel right. So part of that is giving yourself, you can't gaslight yourself. And I think we gaslight ourselves all the time.

Paying attention to what you're telling yourself. There was a time, this uncomfortable interaction I had, there was a time I would have thought, oh, Gramini, you can't get along with anyone or you're so unsophisticated or something like that. I'm like, no. I just didn't feel right. So part of that is giving yourself, you can't gaslight yourself. And I think we gaslight ourselves all the time.

We tell ourselves there's something wrong with us. We did it wrong. We're the ones who are damaged, whatever it may be, instead of trusting ourselves. And interestingly, it doesn't have to be an indictment of the other person. I'm not saying this other person is a quote unquote bad person. For whatever reason, my body was not feeling good.

We tell ourselves there's something wrong with us. We did it wrong. We're the ones who are damaged, whatever it may be, instead of trusting ourselves. And interestingly, it doesn't have to be an indictment of the other person. I'm not saying this other person is a quote unquote bad person. For whatever reason, my body was not feeling good.

We tell ourselves there's something wrong with us. We did it wrong. We're the ones who are damaged, whatever it may be, instead of trusting ourselves. And interestingly, it doesn't have to be an indictment of the other person. I'm not saying this other person is a quote unquote bad person. For whatever reason, my body was not feeling good.

comfortable in this person's presence, whatever that means. And my body feels comfortable in a lot of people's presences. So there was something in that dance that wasn't working. I kind of knew what it was, but I paid attention to that. And so I'm a big fan of writing stuff down. I really think that we think we're going to remember stuff and we don't.

comfortable in this person's presence, whatever that means. And my body feels comfortable in a lot of people's presences. So there was something in that dance that wasn't working. I kind of knew what it was, but I paid attention to that. And so I'm a big fan of writing stuff down. I really think that we think we're going to remember stuff and we don't.

comfortable in this person's presence, whatever that means. And my body feels comfortable in a lot of people's presences. So there was something in that dance that wasn't working. I kind of knew what it was, but I paid attention to that. And so I'm a big fan of writing stuff down. I really think that we think we're going to remember stuff and we don't.

And there's something, and I'm talking writing it down, ideally with a pencil in your hand, not just in your phone, that sort of physiological experience of pen or pencil in hand on paper, that can often help us sort of register memories in a way that we're also starting to trust ourselves more. But all of those things together do make us more discerning.

And there's something, and I'm talking writing it down, ideally with a pencil in your hand, not just in your phone, that sort of physiological experience of pen or pencil in hand on paper, that can often help us sort of register memories in a way that we're also starting to trust ourselves more. But all of those things together do make us more discerning.

And there's something, and I'm talking writing it down, ideally with a pencil in your hand, not just in your phone, that sort of physiological experience of pen or pencil in hand on paper, that can often help us sort of register memories in a way that we're also starting to trust ourselves more. But all of those things together do make us more discerning.

And I'm going to give you this example too, and this has a lot of bearing on your podcast, which is when you think about,

And I'm going to give you this example too, and this has a lot of bearing on your podcast, which is when you think about,

And I'm going to give you this example too, and this has a lot of bearing on your podcast, which is when you think about,

the kinds of things you talk about the things you've talked about with other guests of how careful people are like you said putting toxic substances in your mouth don't eat this don't eat something that's you know unprocessed or don't eat super processed food don't eat don't drink this don't smoke this don't do that don't don't don't don't don't right so we spent a lot of time being super discerning about what we consume what we put in our bodies and

the kinds of things you talk about the things you've talked about with other guests of how careful people are like you said putting toxic substances in your mouth don't eat this don't eat something that's you know unprocessed or don't eat super processed food don't eat don't drink this don't smoke this don't do that don't don't don't don't don't right so we spent a lot of time being super discerning about what we consume what we put in our bodies and

the kinds of things you talk about the things you've talked about with other guests of how careful people are like you said putting toxic substances in your mouth don't eat this don't eat something that's you know unprocessed or don't eat super processed food don't eat don't drink this don't smoke this don't do that don't don't don't don't don't right so we spent a lot of time being super discerning about what we consume what we put in our bodies and