Dr. Ramani Durvasula

If we brought that level of discernment to people, we'd be so much more healthy. So if you can sit in the market and say organic or grown here and spend all that time in your fancy groceries or figuring that out, then you owe yourself to spend the equal amount of effort in being discerning about the human beings you let close to you. It's far more important.

If we brought that level of discernment to people, we'd be so much more healthy. So if you can sit in the market and say organic or grown here and spend all that time in your fancy groceries or figuring that out, then you owe yourself to spend the equal amount of effort in being discerning about the human beings you let close to you. It's far more important.

If we brought that level of discernment to people, we'd be so much more healthy. So if you can sit in the market and say organic or grown here and spend all that time in your fancy groceries or figuring that out, then you owe yourself to spend the equal amount of effort in being discerning about the human beings you let close to you. It's far more important.

And I have to say a lot of folks in intimate relationships will say it took them somewhere between one and two years to really spot the narcissism. Because again, the early part of a narcissistic relationship is often very idealized, very seductive, fun, and exciting. In fact, a lot of people will say this is the most interesting, compelling, exciting relationship.

And I have to say a lot of folks in intimate relationships will say it took them somewhere between one and two years to really spot the narcissism. Because again, the early part of a narcissistic relationship is often very idealized, very seductive, fun, and exciting. In fact, a lot of people will say this is the most interesting, compelling, exciting relationship.

And I have to say a lot of folks in intimate relationships will say it took them somewhere between one and two years to really spot the narcissism. Because again, the early part of a narcissistic relationship is often very idealized, very seductive, fun, and exciting. In fact, a lot of people will say this is the most interesting, compelling, exciting relationship.

Because for that whole laundry list I gave you, low empathy, entitlement, grandiosity, arrogance, all that icky stuff, narcissistic people are also very charming, compelling, confident, clever. And above all else, charismatic. So you have these really charismatic, engaging people. People aren't looking for the problems there.

Because for that whole laundry list I gave you, low empathy, entitlement, grandiosity, arrogance, all that icky stuff, narcissistic people are also very charming, compelling, confident, clever. And above all else, charismatic. So you have these really charismatic, engaging people. People aren't looking for the problems there.

Because for that whole laundry list I gave you, low empathy, entitlement, grandiosity, arrogance, all that icky stuff, narcissistic people are also very charming, compelling, confident, clever. And above all else, charismatic. So you have these really charismatic, engaging people. People aren't looking for the problems there.

And when they do come up, people either blame themselves or say, oh, it's just a bad day. Everyone has off days. And the excuses start to pile up. Most clients I've worked with, it was usually somewhere between eight months and two years where they're like, oh boy. And the problem between eight months and two years is you could be pretty deep in. You might've already moved in with each other.

And when they do come up, people either blame themselves or say, oh, it's just a bad day. Everyone has off days. And the excuses start to pile up. Most clients I've worked with, it was usually somewhere between eight months and two years where they're like, oh boy. And the problem between eight months and two years is you could be pretty deep in. You might've already moved in with each other.

And when they do come up, people either blame themselves or say, oh, it's just a bad day. Everyone has off days. And the excuses start to pile up. Most clients I've worked with, it was usually somewhere between eight months and two years where they're like, oh boy. And the problem between eight months and two years is you could be pretty deep in. You might've already moved in with each other.

You might've gotten engaged. You might've gotten married. You might have a child on the way. Now you're sunk. because getting out of these relationships is no small task. And the other tricky piece of narcissistic relationships is they aren't all bad days, right? So this is not like you're getting into a relationship where it's a love bombing and then it's terrible.

You might've gotten engaged. You might've gotten married. You might have a child on the way. Now you're sunk. because getting out of these relationships is no small task. And the other tricky piece of narcissistic relationships is they aren't all bad days, right? So this is not like you're getting into a relationship where it's a love bombing and then it's terrible.

You might've gotten engaged. You might've gotten married. You might have a child on the way. Now you're sunk. because getting out of these relationships is no small task. And the other tricky piece of narcissistic relationships is they aren't all bad days, right? So this is not like you're getting into a relationship where it's a love bombing and then it's terrible.

I always say it's sort of like a slow titration down. After the love bombing phase is done and the devaluation phase starts, it's still about 90% good and 10% bad. Then it's 80% good, 20% bad, 70, 30, 60, 40. At the 50-50 point, now we're in a process we call trauma bonding. That the confusion of the intermittent reinforcement, the good days and the bad days, the good days and the bad days.

I always say it's sort of like a slow titration down. After the love bombing phase is done and the devaluation phase starts, it's still about 90% good and 10% bad. Then it's 80% good, 20% bad, 70, 30, 60, 40. At the 50-50 point, now we're in a process we call trauma bonding. That the confusion of the intermittent reinforcement, the good days and the bad days, the good days and the bad days.

I always say it's sort of like a slow titration down. After the love bombing phase is done and the devaluation phase starts, it's still about 90% good and 10% bad. Then it's 80% good, 20% bad, 70, 30, 60, 40. At the 50-50 point, now we're in a process we call trauma bonding. That the confusion of the intermittent reinforcement, the good days and the bad days, the good days and the bad days.

And in that structure, people don't want the relationship to go away. They want it to improve. And they're like, well, there are these good... How can we make it so it's all good days, right? It's not all bad. So they start blaming themselves. The person in the relationship blames themselves.

And in that structure, people don't want the relationship to go away. They want it to improve. And they're like, well, there are these good... How can we make it so it's all good days, right? It's not all bad. So they start blaming themselves. The person in the relationship blames themselves.