Dr. Rangan Chatterjee

Sure, I accept that can also be done in a very controlling way.

And maybe people making those comments, those negative comments, maybe they've had those direct comments used against them in a negative way.

And I get that.

I totally get that.

But again, mum's saying that to me.

I could interpret that as...

you know what, mum loves me and she's telling me how it is, or I can choose to take offense, right?

And go, I can't believe she said that to me.

And again, there's a cultural component to that as well, right?

Because I suspect for an English family, for a native British family, politeness is a big value here in the UK.

That's right.

That's probably not what...

Do you know what I mean?

There's a cultural difference.

And I understand that having lived with my mom since I was born.

Yeah, that's really beautiful in there.

And throughout the book, there's all kinds of practical exercises that people can practice with.

Because some of this stuff is not going to just land immediately.

They're not going to just hear it and go, okay, cool, great.

I'm not going to have any relationship problems anymore.