Dr. Rangan Chatterjee

I think it's such a great example because it speaks to close relationships.

And as you've already pointed out, sometimes it's the people closest to us who don't see the best of us.

And I mean, that chapter in the book in which you talk about that story,

the subtitle to that chapter heading from recollection is you don't have a relationship problem, you have a perception problem, which again, I think is brilliant because it speaks to what we said right at the start, which is most of us are not seeing reality, we're seeing a version of the world created by our beliefs.

You created that version because you had this expectation and I guess you could call it a belief about what your mother should do

when you stay up to 1 a.m.

and do something for her.

And it's such a beautiful exercise to turn things around very quickly, at least to just soften your belief, belief again, that that was a fact.

It's kind of interesting to me, because the first time I heard you tell that story on a podcast recently,

The first thing that went in my head before you got into how you turned around, when you just said what your mum had said to you, which is, hey Nir, thanks so much.

And then, by the way, the flowers came half dead, so don't use that florist again.

I thought it just sounds like a really helpful thing to me, right?

I'm like, oh, she said thanks.

So she appreciated it.

And then she may be trying to stop her beloved son wasting his money.

And next time she's a different florist, right?

Can I ask what's the nationality of your mum?

We're Israeli.

Israeli, okay.

The only reason I ask is because