Dr. Rangan Chatterjee

I should probably, she didn't tell me what to do.

I just thought,

Yeah, I probably let myself go a little bit.

I can be a bit more careful or whatever it might be.

Now, when I put that out on Instagram, oh my God, for some people, they're like, that's abusive.

And I was wondering, because obviously I don't particularly want negative comments about my mom, right?

But it speaks to this idea that people are locked in to their beliefs about the world, right?

Sure, I accept that can also be done in a very controlling way.

And maybe people making those comments, those negative comments, maybe they've had those direct comments used against them in a negative way.

And I get that.

I totally get that.

But again, mum's saying that to me.

I could interpret that as...

you know what, mum loves me and she's telling me how it is, or I can choose to take offense, right?

And go, I can't believe she said that to me.

And again, there's a cultural component to that as well, right?

Because I suspect for an English family, for a native British family, politeness is a big value here in the UK.

That's right.

That's probably not what...

Do you know what I mean?