Dr. Rhonda Barofsky

All right, so this is Haranmeh, and he asks, how can I deal with my intense anxiety before public speaking? And he wrote you, how can I deal with my intense anxiety before public speaking without working on the negative thoughts I have afterward? The thoughts I have afterward are I'm going to mess this up.

All right, so this is Haranmeh, and he asks, how can I deal with my intense anxiety before public speaking? And he wrote you, how can I deal with my intense anxiety before public speaking without working on the negative thoughts I have afterward? The thoughts I have afterward are I'm going to mess this up.

People are going to notice something obviously wrong in my presentation that I missed, and I'll look like a fool. This talk is important. It must go well. And here's his full email. Dear Dr. Burns, I love your books and the Feeling Good podcast.

People are going to notice something obviously wrong in my presentation that I missed, and I'll look like a fool. This talk is important. It must go well. And here's his full email. Dear Dr. Burns, I love your books and the Feeling Good podcast.

Do you have enough? Okay.

Do you have enough? Okay.

Can I just reiterate that he's not looking for help with the thoughts after the presentation or dealing with his upsetness that he didn't go well. He wants to look for strategies to deal with anxiety before the presentation.

Can I just reiterate that he's not looking for help with the thoughts after the presentation or dealing with his upsetness that he didn't go well. He wants to look for strategies to deal with anxiety before the presentation.

Okay, Matt. I'm your negative thought. Oh, hi. It's good to see you again. Yeah, yeah. You know, I've been messing with you lately, and I just want to know that, you know, you're going to mess this talk up.

Okay, Matt. I'm your negative thought. Oh, hi. It's good to see you again. Yeah, yeah. You know, I've been messing with you lately, and I just want to know that, you know, you're going to mess this talk up.

Who won that, Matt?

Who won that, Matt?

And did you win it small or large? I thought it was large.

And did you win it small or large? I thought it was large.

No, I have to say that I agree with you, David. I mean, it doesn't matter if he does these techniques a week before or a day before or five minutes before. I mean, if he defeats them and practices defeating them regularly before the talk and does reach that state of enlightenment the way Matt did, then five minutes before the presentation, he can remind himself of how he defeated them a week ago.

No, I have to say that I agree with you, David. I mean, it doesn't matter if he does these techniques a week before or a day before or five minutes before. I mean, if he defeats them and practices defeating them regularly before the talk and does reach that state of enlightenment the way Matt did, then five minutes before the presentation, he can remind himself of how he defeated them a week ago.

Okay. As long as I don't have to be as good as Matt.

Okay. As long as I don't have to be as good as Matt.

Well, actually, it did hurt my feelings. My feelings are a little hurt. I'm sensitive. And I am so used to being lame on the podcast that one more experience of being lame, just add it to the pile. And people like that I'm lame because it makes them really relate well to me. Like that's what people said all the time at the intensive.

Well, actually, it did hurt my feelings. My feelings are a little hurt. I'm sensitive. And I am so used to being lame on the podcast that one more experience of being lame, just add it to the pile. And people like that I'm lame because it makes them really relate well to me. Like that's what people said all the time at the intensive.