Dr. Rhonda Barofsky

And then I reasoned with my fear and turned that into kind of attacking myself and calling myself dumb.

And then I reasoned with my fear and turned that into kind of attacking myself and calling myself dumb.

Right.

Right.

And it was a should statement. Like I shouldn't be worried about, I shouldn't feel dumb about driving over this overpass. And I was blaming myself. So it was self-blame.

And it was a should statement. Like I shouldn't be worried about, I shouldn't feel dumb about driving over this overpass. And I was blaming myself. So it was self-blame.

That was actually a pivotal moment in our work together because when you, you know, you expanded it actually when we were doing it together. It's you, it's you, you're a little girl. What age could you be where you're just, free and happy. And, and, and so I identified, maybe I'm about eight years old and, and I say all these mean things to your eight year old self.

That was actually a pivotal moment in our work together because when you, you know, you expanded it actually when we were doing it together. It's you, it's you, you're a little girl. What age could you be where you're just, free and happy. And, and, and so I identified, maybe I'm about eight years old and, and I say all these mean things to your eight year old self.

And I, I just felt so protective of that little girl and sad. And like, I would never talk to a child that way. Like I, I was like, no, Werner, I can't do that. No, I'm not going to do that.

And I, I just felt so protective of that little girl and sad. And like, I would never talk to a child that way. Like I, I was like, no, Werner, I can't do that. No, I'm not going to do that.

I'm being really mean to myself, and I want to be kinder to myself.

I'm being really mean to myself, and I want to be kinder to myself.

Yeah. I'm really good at having other people take care of me and drive me places, but that doesn't make me dumb. I'm actually quite smart at working my way through my anxiety, even if it is through safety behaviors.

Yeah. I'm really good at having other people take care of me and drive me places, but that doesn't make me dumb. I'm actually quite smart at working my way through my anxiety, even if it is through safety behaviors.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Well, I mean, honestly, it is kind of dumb. And it is a fact. And I can accept that I'm dumb about this situation. And I can also accept that I want to change it.

Well, I mean, honestly, it is kind of dumb. And it is a fact. And I can accept that I'm dumb about this situation. And I can also accept that I want to change it.

Yeah. I mean, I think if you can really, for me, if I can really feel the acceptance, it's always going to be huge.

Yeah. I mean, I think if you can really, for me, if I can really feel the acceptance, it's always going to be huge.