Dr. Richard Hogan

Gaffing out.

I meet my friends in Cork and we used to talk about when we were 14, 15, cycling down to the woods and lighting bonfires and all the rest of it.

My parents didn't want me to do that.

Right.

And so your kids are going to break the rules that you set and all that.

But you have to allow for that, too, because if they obeyed every fecking rule that you had in place, they'd have no childhood.

They'd be little robots.

They'd have no excitement to reflect on that sustains them to the regularity of that banality of life when you're a bit older and you're going in the train, you're thinking about what you were like as a 14 year old, 15 year old.

And so that's the whole thing with parenting.

We're not perfect.

Relax about that.

The dynamic you create with this new family will not be perfect.

And what you said is so important.

Have patience with it.

And allow for those personalities to not be delighted at the idea that they're in this new dynamic because they've come out of a very difficult environment there.

It might take time.

That will develop over time.

That's all right.

See, that's what I'm saying.

There's a kind of an urgency about that, which is forced.