Dr. Richard Hogan

But dad's your dad and we never want to change that.

But look, John, you know, I really like John.

We get on really well and I think you might like John over time.

I'm not saying you're going to like him immediately and all the rest of it, but I'm asking you to just give him a chance.

But he's a good guy.

Yeah, he's a good guy.

Ciara, honestly, like this.

That your child needs, but that you should be.

I have so many Kate and Ashley.

Jesus, there's a blast from the 90s.

Yeah, I mean, it's so profound what you're saying because the amount of children that I would sit with, and this is a heavy thing to say, that I would say they'd hear their dad having sex with this new partner.

They went on holidays and they're listening to their parent, their dad having sex with someone.

No, I mean, I'd meet that in the clinic a lot.

And you're sitting there going, okay, whatever about the bit of passion that's in your life.

And then the next minute they're saying that, like, you know, she's gone now, he's with somebody else.

It's just, like, what a fracture in a child's psychology to hear that, first of all.

Jesus Christ.

But that's what I'm saying.

they're separate yes from your parent and so that's what I'm saying and sometimes people get into a relationship quickly and bring them introduce them to their kids because they want them to go back to their ex-partner to say mom or dad has a new girlfriend just to whack at them a little bit you know what I mean to say you thought you were the only one I could get we touch on revenge a lot in this podcast

but you're not wrong people do do that and that's that thing it's about levelling the playing field you hurt me I'll hurt you now but that's that's scorched earth you know what I mean that just burns all that's good and wholesome in the land there and your children are going to be disturbed and it will impact on who they go off into their relationships with it will impact their friendships it will impact so much of their life as they move on