Dr. Robert Glover

That's me.

Nowadays, that's not a compliment.

People don't take that well.

Yeah, because what we think of now and what I write about in Mr. Nice Guy is a guy that is passively pleasing, conflict avoidant, goes along to get along, doesn't want to rock the boat, doesn't want anybody pissed at him.

So there's no real him there.

So often he's not honest.

He's not transparent.

He's not straightforward.

You don't know what he really thinks, wants and feels.

And as a result, he's often frustrated, passive aggressive, and could even be extremely not nice at times.

And all those conversations he's rehearsed in his head about why you're not appreciating him enough or giving him enough or why you don't like him or treat him better, all of that builds up and it comes out and he's not at all very nice.

Depends on when you catch him.

Right.

Well, the core problem is he's inauthentic.

You don't really know who he is.

And deeper than that, the nice guy, and I'm a recovering nice guy, so I tell people my book is my autobiography.

I just use other people's stories to tell mine.

Right.

I thought that was a good thing, that I was a nice guy.

I was different from my father.