Dr. Robert Glover

And I've got groups in my life.

I've got a men's group.

I've got guy friends that if I'm struggling, if I'm down, if I'm lethargic, if I'm in a state of existential angst, right, I talk to them about it.

I let them know.

I don't just carry it around in this chamber in my head and put on a smiley face.

Now, do I tell the flight attendant all of that stuff, you know, on the airplane?

No.

Right.

I might get on a podcast and share some of it.

But I say in the book, No More Mr. Nice Guy.

that nice guys are like Teflon men.

They look like everything's okay, right?

But I say that people are actually attracted to other people's rough edges, because that's what we can relate to.

You can't relate to somebody that looks perfect, and they say, oh, life's great, everything's always good.

Hunky-dory, yeah.

And at the same time...

Every time you get around a friend, you don't want to hear just a liturgy of complaint about everything that's going wrong.

And usually those kind of people, they're not looking for solutions to take action and improve whatever the situation is.

They just like complaining.

I think there's like chemical payoffs in the brain for playing the victim.