Dr. Russell Barkley

And that alone to me, that mindset becomes very therapeutic because you didn't cause this.

You're not choosing to be this way.

You can't get up and smell the coffee tomorrow and become a different person.

You are struggling as are people with autism spectrum or bipolar disorder with something you didn't ask for.

but that you've been blessed because of your genes or other factors that you now have to cope with.

So on the one hand, I'm taking you off the hook.

You didn't cause this and neither did your parents in terms of how they raised you.

On the other hand, I'm gonna put you back on the hook

because you're the person that has to do something about this.

And there's nothing wrong with that.

That's the neurodiversity movement in spades.

You're just a neurodiverse person.

But you got to stop denying and blaming and shifting the source of the problem to your spouse or partner or boss or mother or friend, because you're the common denominator here.

You know, it took my twin brother 37 years to wake up and realize that his life

was the result of his decision making and not all the other people he wanted to blame for that.

And I see that all the time.

So I really love that idea about, you know, you got to own it before I can help you.

Yeah, I know.

And it's a Schedule II drug, unfortunately.

The other drugs are not, but the stimulants are Schedule II, which means they have the potential to be abused.