Dr. Samantha Boardman

Another example of where we sort of get it grossly wrong is we assume that we're going to be that we're happier when we're just sort of by ourselves and that we don't really want to have a conversation with anybody. And that, you know, being like that, we choose solitude. so often over connection and that we think that connection is going to drain us or that we don't really feel like it.

And studies show that people in general feel so much better having had a brief conversation with somebody that that, again, sort of lifts us out of ourselves. Our distorted sort of expectations of how something will make us feel and then the reality of that, I think, creates this opportunity squandered.

And studies show that people in general feel so much better having had a brief conversation with somebody that that, again, sort of lifts us out of ourselves. Our distorted sort of expectations of how something will make us feel and then the reality of that, I think, creates this opportunity squandered.

And studies show that people in general feel so much better having had a brief conversation with somebody that that, again, sort of lifts us out of ourselves. Our distorted sort of expectations of how something will make us feel and then the reality of that, I think, creates this opportunity squandered.

Yes. And it's just this missed opportunity there to make that the recipient is going to feel so good. And they don't care that it's like a 10-page letter, just a nice note saying why it was meaningful. And also sometimes I think we talk a lot about gratitude and people make gratitude lists, but they're usually very self-oriented. When we're expressing gratitude, it's about other people.

Yes. And it's just this missed opportunity there to make that the recipient is going to feel so good. And they don't care that it's like a 10-page letter, just a nice note saying why it was meaningful. And also sometimes I think we talk a lot about gratitude and people make gratitude lists, but they're usually very self-oriented. When we're expressing gratitude, it's about other people.

Yes. And it's just this missed opportunity there to make that the recipient is going to feel so good. And they don't care that it's like a 10-page letter, just a nice note saying why it was meaningful. And also sometimes I think we talk a lot about gratitude and people make gratitude lists, but they're usually very self-oriented. When we're expressing gratitude, it's about other people.

saying, thank you so much for that thing. Like, you know, the way you do that, really, I admire. Don't make gratitude about you. And, you know, one way that I think that can really help people maybe feel a little bit, you know, more comfortable writing gratitude letters or just thank you letters as well is make it easy on yourself. Buy some stamps.

saying, thank you so much for that thing. Like, you know, the way you do that, really, I admire. Don't make gratitude about you. And, you know, one way that I think that can really help people maybe feel a little bit, you know, more comfortable writing gratitude letters or just thank you letters as well is make it easy on yourself. Buy some stamps.

saying, thank you so much for that thing. Like, you know, the way you do that, really, I admire. Don't make gratitude about you. And, you know, one way that I think that can really help people maybe feel a little bit, you know, more comfortable writing gratitude letters or just thank you letters as well is make it easy on yourself. Buy some stamps.

have some stationery sitting there so you don't have to think of all these different little moving parts that you need to do to get that gratitude letter in the mail. And I have to say, whenever I receive one, I have a gratitude wall that I put it up on because it's so valuable. It's really gold when someone does that and it's really generous.

have some stationery sitting there so you don't have to think of all these different little moving parts that you need to do to get that gratitude letter in the mail. And I have to say, whenever I receive one, I have a gratitude wall that I put it up on because it's so valuable. It's really gold when someone does that and it's really generous.

have some stationery sitting there so you don't have to think of all these different little moving parts that you need to do to get that gratitude letter in the mail. And I have to say, whenever I receive one, I have a gratitude wall that I put it up on because it's so valuable. It's really gold when someone does that and it's really generous.

Thank you so much.

Thank you so much.

Thank you so much.