Dr Sarah Warley

And if you've got that, over time, the RSD will then diminish because you'll begin seeing the world a different way.

And the more you see it a different way, the wiring will happen for you to perceive that actually it wasn't really my problem all along.

Maybe the problem was I was being judged according to a neurotypical world.

And actually, maybe I'm absolutely fine the way I am.

I'm just doing the wrong thing and I'm in the wrong environment.

And, you know, that awful self-flagellatory blame can begin to go.

But I don't think it's as simple as take a supplement and it'll vanish.

I would that it were, you know.

I think loneliness is loneliness.

I think the experience of loneliness is probably unique.

the same to a greater or lesser extent for people, but are they more prone to becoming lonely?

I would say probably yes, and not just ADHD.

I would add autism into that mix as well.

If you grow up believing that you are different and you don't fit in and being told all the things that are wrong with you, you learn to mask, don't you?

You learn to

present a face that the neurotypical world will find acceptable that you feel like you need to put this suit of armor on to get by in the world to do well in the world and meanwhile you bury yourself and tell yourself to shut up and it comes at a cost doesn't it longer term and so you can have terrible you know burnouts breakdowns anxiety depression and

when trying to keep a lid on that for so long, you know, gradually just explodes.

And I think girls are very guilty of this, by the way, more so than boys.

And I think that's why they get picked up later.

with both ADHD and autism because, you know, they've got to feel smiling and sweet.