Dr Sarah Warley

Parents are in tears.

Can't believe how marvellous it is.

Pictures of him all over the walls at home.

And, of course, as you know, the secret cost, the invisible cost, is compensation, compensation, working 10 times as hard.

juggling like mad, trying to keep the balls in the air.

And actually, there's a Wall Street saying, what is it?

There are 10 balls in the air and two of them are mine.

It felt a little like that.

And then he managed to compensate until it got to his final year.

And he did a little bounce of depression, but he managed to get through.

And he started doing his first final exam.

And he had a catastrophic, just like a breakdown, I can't describe it any other way, where the wheels finally come off the bus and you just can't cope and you can't compensate anymore.

And he had to drop out for a year, which would mean having to do, by the way, if he ever felt well enough to go back doing the entire last year again, went back to his parents' house.

was in bed, was almost catatonic, you know, just couldn't move, couldn't do anything, couldn't function, couldn't look after himself, couldn't get out of bed, couldn't do anything.

And his parents were desperately trying to help him, you know, trying to figure out who to see, putting him in front of different psychotherapists, different psychiatrists, trying different medications, could anything sort of help.

And he started, I mean, the language he uses is, I got as low as a person can possibly ever get.

And he started talking about being a waste of space and being a terrible burden, terrible burden on everyone around him and just not wanting to be there anymore.

And all I know is my son told me about this.

When I hear of a guy that is 2021 talking about being a burden and a waste of space, I worry because that's the highest suicide risk category.

And so I got involved and I sort of said, look, you know, has anyone ever tested you?