Dr. Sunita Sah

If you think you're the least honest in the room, you should put yourself at 0. And if you think you're about average, it should be 50. And guess what I find time after time? I find that most people are rating themselves 85 or over. And of course, not everybody in the room can be 85 or over, right? If the average needs to be 50. But we hardly get anyone saying 50 and no one going below that.

If you think you're the least honest in the room, you should put yourself at 0. And if you think you're about average, it should be 50. And guess what I find time after time? I find that most people are rating themselves 85 or over. And of course, not everybody in the room can be 85 or over, right? If the average needs to be 50. But we hardly get anyone saying 50 and no one going below that.

If you think you're the least honest in the room, you should put yourself at 0. And if you think you're about average, it should be 50. And guess what I find time after time? I find that most people are rating themselves 85 or over. And of course, not everybody in the room can be 85 or over, right? If the average needs to be 50. But we hardly get anyone saying 50 and no one going below that.

So we rate integrity so highly. And yet we find that we don't act in that way when the time requires it. We fail to put our values into action. And what my studies have shown time and time again is that gap between who we think we are and what we actually do is enormous. And learning how to defy, given that a lot of our behavior is influenced by other people, decreases that gap.

So we rate integrity so highly. And yet we find that we don't act in that way when the time requires it. We fail to put our values into action. And what my studies have shown time and time again is that gap between who we think we are and what we actually do is enormous. And learning how to defy, given that a lot of our behavior is influenced by other people, decreases that gap.

So we rate integrity so highly. And yet we find that we don't act in that way when the time requires it. We fail to put our values into action. And what my studies have shown time and time again is that gap between who we think we are and what we actually do is enormous. And learning how to defy, given that a lot of our behavior is influenced by other people, decreases that gap.

It sometimes allows us to put our values into action, and I think that's really important. So rather than viewing it as sort of a knee-jerk emotional reaction or reacting with moral outrage to someone and telling them that they're wrong, that's not how I view defiance. I view defiance as living your life according to your values.

It sometimes allows us to put our values into action, and I think that's really important. So rather than viewing it as sort of a knee-jerk emotional reaction or reacting with moral outrage to someone and telling them that they're wrong, that's not how I view defiance. I view defiance as living your life according to your values.

It sometimes allows us to put our values into action, and I think that's really important. So rather than viewing it as sort of a knee-jerk emotional reaction or reacting with moral outrage to someone and telling them that they're wrong, that's not how I view defiance. I view defiance as living your life according to your values.

Not just according to me, according to the research.

Not just according to me, according to the research.

Not just according to me, according to the research.

Yes, absolutely.

Yes, absolutely.

Yes, absolutely.

There's a large gap. There's a large gap between who we think we are and what we actually do.

There's a large gap. There's a large gap between who we think we are and what we actually do.

There's a large gap. There's a large gap between who we think we are and what we actually do.

Yeah, we do have what is called positive illusions that helps us live in the world at times, but also we have what is called an empathy gap. So if we see someone behaving badly, we think, oh, I would never do that in that particular circumstance. Oh, I would be able to have said no. I wouldn't have listened to my boss asking me to do something unethical. I would have said no.

Yeah, we do have what is called positive illusions that helps us live in the world at times, but also we have what is called an empathy gap. So if we see someone behaving badly, we think, oh, I would never do that in that particular circumstance. Oh, I would be able to have said no. I wouldn't have listened to my boss asking me to do something unethical. I would have said no.