Dr. Tara Narula

You just can't.

You can't, you know, get out of the situation.

We don't have control over that.

What do we have control over?

We have control over how we respond to the stress, right?

It's not the stress that kills us.

It is our reaction to it.

Well, I think one is you don't have to take it all in, right?

So for a lot of my patients, I'll say, don't, I mean, I'm on the news.

Don't turn the news on, you know?

I mean, if that means it's going to give you that peace, like you're entitled to not watch morning television if you don't want to, right?

I think also finding ways that you can make those small changes.

So maybe it means like going out and marching for something you believe in.

You know, maybe it means writing an essay and...

You, again, have agency and power to cause change in the opposite direction, even those small little steps.

So there's so much I think we can do.

We just need to give people like the ability to do it.

Yeah, and this, you know, in laying out the book and figuring out what skills, what blueprint did I want to give people, acceptance had to be the first one.

It had to be the first tool because you can't do anything else until you've accepted what happened.

And one of the women that I interviewed for my CBS News story, who I also feature in the book, is Lucy Hohn, who is an incredible resilience researcher of her own right.