Dr. Tara Swart

What does science have to say about how can we look at our past? How can we look at our wiring in a healthy way rather than a judgmental way? Because we could just turn around and say, I'm the worst that I've been thinking this way. You start criticizing yourself. I've wasted so much time. I always hear, even sometimes I hear people and they're like, I wish I started when I was 18.

What does science have to say about how can we look at our past? How can we look at our wiring in a healthy way rather than a judgmental way? Because we could just turn around and say, I'm the worst that I've been thinking this way. You start criticizing yourself. I've wasted so much time. I always hear, even sometimes I hear people and they're like, I wish I started when I was 18.

I wish I started when I was 25. And there's this regret that's underlying that feeling, even if they did change. How do we look at our past and look at change in a healthier way rather than a negative way?

I wish I started when I was 25. And there's this regret that's underlying that feeling, even if they did change. How do we look at our past and look at change in a healthier way rather than a negative way?

Yeah, that kind of opening of the idea that you went through this, but it could also be an opportunity or this impediment could also be an invitation. Like that kind of understanding I find to be really powerful. And I would agree with you. I think the most purposeful people I've met

Yeah, that kind of opening of the idea that you went through this, but it could also be an opportunity or this impediment could also be an invitation. Like that kind of understanding I find to be really powerful. And I would agree with you. I think the most purposeful people I've met

are people who went through a pain point and now they don't want other people to go through that pain or they want to help people through that pain. And that's what created their ability to do that.

are people who went through a pain point and now they don't want other people to go through that pain or they want to help people through that pain. And that's what created their ability to do that.

Whereas someone else who may not have had that pain or may not have had that challenge, almost can it sometimes feel less clear or a bit more lost because they don't know what the meaning of their life is or where they stand.

Whereas someone else who may not have had that pain or may not have had that challenge, almost can it sometimes feel less clear or a bit more lost because they don't know what the meaning of their life is or where they stand.

Yeah. Or having a lot of free time or whatever it may be. When people are trying, I feel like we live in a time right now where And you alluded to this earlier, and I'm kind of going back to it. We live at a time where there's a lot of projected goals and expectations. And a lot of people can feel like they're so far away from their own goals because there's goals from other people around them.

Yeah. Or having a lot of free time or whatever it may be. When people are trying, I feel like we live in a time right now where And you alluded to this earlier, and I'm kind of going back to it. We live at a time where there's a lot of projected goals and expectations. And a lot of people can feel like they're so far away from their own goals because there's goals from other people around them.

Now, my mentor, I'm still good friends with him, knew me very well. And so he wasn't projecting his entrepreneurial thing. He was seeing something that I couldn't. But a lot of the times there's society like, oh, let's live in hustle culture. Everyone needs to be an entrepreneur. Everyone needs to be a CEO. There's a lot of performance culture out there and productivity culture.

Now, my mentor, I'm still good friends with him, knew me very well. And so he wasn't projecting his entrepreneurial thing. He was seeing something that I couldn't. But a lot of the times there's society like, oh, let's live in hustle culture. Everyone needs to be an entrepreneur. Everyone needs to be a CEO. There's a lot of performance culture out there and productivity culture.

And I find that a lot of people either struggle with that weight of that expectation or they actually curl up into a ball and kind of don't want to go anywhere and do anything. And it makes them hide from that as well, because it's almost like everyone's just pushing them to be more ambitious and be more driven. At the same time,

And I find that a lot of people either struggle with that weight of that expectation or they actually curl up into a ball and kind of don't want to go anywhere and do anything. And it makes them hide from that as well, because it's almost like everyone's just pushing them to be more ambitious and be more driven. At the same time,

I would love to understand the psychology of being needing to open up to more challenges and more opportunities is just a healthy way of living. So if someone's stuck in that space of, you know, Tara and Jay, I'm just, you know, I'm kind of stuck because I do want more. I'm trying to get there that I believe I deserve it.

I would love to understand the psychology of being needing to open up to more challenges and more opportunities is just a healthy way of living. So if someone's stuck in that space of, you know, Tara and Jay, I'm just, you know, I'm kind of stuck because I do want more. I'm trying to get there that I believe I deserve it.

But then I don't know if that's what I really want or if it's what my parents want or what social media wants me to want or what my friends are doing.

But then I don't know if that's what I really want or if it's what my parents want or what social media wants me to want or what my friends are doing.