Dr. Tara Swart

I just had this weird feeling that I would find my way.

And on some kind of spiritual level that I'd been in that place before, which I can't explain...

But for me, I mean, I can lose my way in London.

I can be crying on a street corner in London.

I've lived here my entire life.

For me to say it's OK to just keep walking because eventually you'll find your way back felt like an analogy for grief.

Yes.

Even having to drive because Robin always drove.

And even when he was between treatments, I would drive to the country, but he would say, get into this lane, go down to 50, turn off here.

So suddenly having to drive on my own.

At first, I was like, you know, shaking and terrified and didn't even feel like, oh, my God, I got home safely.

That's great.

I just looked at the seat next to me and just thought, like, why aren't you here?

But then my driving improved, you know, like it had to.

And so I use that as an analogy.

I was like, I can't see my grief journey, but I can see that I've improved in driving this much in six months.

So it must be the same.

And how much they help.

Yeah.

And I think, so my neighbor, she lost her brother and she said to me, just walk your way back to healing.