Dr. Tara Swart

And then sex will, then the oxytocin isn't as buffered by the testosterone. So when you've got the vasopressin and the oxytocin high, then the testosterone has less negating effect on it.

So I think, you know, the whole like visual and smell thing at start is quite interesting. And then the receptors and hormones to do with bonding and sex is really interesting. I would say that because we live so much longer now, you know, we're using these cave analogies. But to be honest, in cave times, you and I would both be dead.

So I think, you know, the whole like visual and smell thing at start is quite interesting. And then the receptors and hormones to do with bonding and sex is really interesting. I would say that because we live so much longer now, you know, we're using these cave analogies. But to be honest, in cave times, you and I would both be dead.

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So relationships potentially have to last for longer. And I think there's two things to say here. One is that you can use neuroplasticity to keep growing and changing in a way that keeps a relationship fresh. if you are holding onto this fantasy that a relationship has to last forever, even if we're now living till we're 100, right?

So relationships potentially have to last for longer. And I think there's two things to say here. One is that you can use neuroplasticity to keep growing and changing in a way that keeps a relationship fresh. if you are holding onto this fantasy that a relationship has to last forever, even if we're now living till we're 100, right?

So I think another way to look at it is about being in the present, not necessarily putting this intense pressure on yourself, your partner, and the relationship that it has to last forever.

So I think another way to look at it is about being in the present, not necessarily putting this intense pressure on yourself, your partner, and the relationship that it has to last forever.

Understanding that even if a relationship breaks down and that's obviously difficult to handle at the time, that there are potential possibilities for something that's more right for you at a different age than maybe a choice you made in your twenties. So, you know, nothing, you don't have to be a neuroscientist to say those two things.

Understanding that even if a relationship breaks down and that's obviously difficult to handle at the time, that there are potential possibilities for something that's more right for you at a different age than maybe a choice you made in your twenties. So, you know, nothing, you don't have to be a neuroscientist to say those two things.

It's kind of like just using your brain to understand that there's a certain amount of time, there are benefits to being in long-lasting relationships, but there are possible alternatives as well.

It's kind of like just using your brain to understand that there's a certain amount of time, there are benefits to being in long-lasting relationships, but there are possible alternatives as well.

So there's all sorts of reasons that people feel like that, and it comes from what we call ghosts. And so ghosts are related to neural pathways that have been there for so long in your brain that you're not even aware that they are there. So the earlier in childhood that a neural pathway formed and kind of became strong, the more of a ghost it is.

So there's all sorts of reasons that people feel like that, and it comes from what we call ghosts. And so ghosts are related to neural pathways that have been there for so long in your brain that you're not even aware that they are there. So the earlier in childhood that a neural pathway formed and kind of became strong, the more of a ghost it is.

So there's all sorts of reasons that people feel like that, and it comes from what we call ghosts. And so ghosts are related to neural pathways that have been there for so long in your brain that you're not even aware that they are there. So the earlier in childhood that a neural pathway formed and kind of became strong, the more of a ghost it is.

And these are formed by things like the boundaries that your family had. So if some people have very strict families and some people have very open homes where people could just drop by anytime and stay over or whatever, the values that were held in your family When I say family, I mean the environment that you grew up in, any secrets, any role identifications.

And these are formed by things like the boundaries that your family had. So if some people have very strict families and some people have very open homes where people could just drop by anytime and stay over or whatever, the values that were held in your family When I say family, I mean the environment that you grew up in, any secrets, any role identifications.

And these are formed by things like the boundaries that your family had. So if some people have very strict families and some people have very open homes where people could just drop by anytime and stay over or whatever, the values that were held in your family When I say family, I mean the environment that you grew up in, any secrets, any role identifications.

So this can sometimes be things like, oh, you're just like your father, or it could be things like, you know, you're the kind of go-between messenger in the family, you know, whatever. So there's a lot of things that create these very, very old, deeply embedded neural pathways. And so for such a variety of complex reasons, any of us could think that's never gonna work out for me.