Dr. Tara Swart

So you hide it away in childhood and often find yourself in adulthood no longer even aware of what those things are because you've rejected them so deeply.

So you hide it away in childhood and often find yourself in adulthood no longer even aware of what those things are because you've rejected them so deeply.

Yeah. But that's driving a lot of your unconscious behavior.

Yeah. But that's driving a lot of your unconscious behavior.

So if you put together the inner child and the shadow, then what happens is you meet people on the same level of psychological wound as you. Oh, man. You also leave people where if you evolve out of that and they haven't been able to. Wow.

So if you put together the inner child and the shadow, then what happens is you meet people on the same level of psychological wound as you. Oh, man. You also leave people where if you evolve out of that and they haven't been able to. Wow.

Yeah. Is that right? It's not smell. It's sensing, not through smell, the level of the stress hormone, yeah. Interesting. But that's short-term, right? But the inner child and shadow stuff is longer-term.

Yeah. Is that right? It's not smell. It's sensing, not through smell, the level of the stress hormone, yeah. Interesting. But that's short-term, right? But the inner child and shadow stuff is longer-term.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Oh, I can see the cogs moving in your brain. I just think it's fascinating.

Oh, I can see the cogs moving in your brain. I just think it's fascinating.

I think if it's love you're really looking for, then it's not different.

I think if it's love you're really looking for, then it's not different.

Yeah, exactly. The issue is what you're actually looking for.

Yeah, exactly. The issue is what you're actually looking for.

Yeah, I think if you want that sense of partnership and friendship and intimacy and you want to be loyal and you want it to be for the long term, then it doesn't matter what gender you are. But if the disconnect is often, and this is a bit of a stereotype, but usually it's more that women want a loving, stable relationship and men perhaps don't want that as much.

Yeah, I think if you want that sense of partnership and friendship and intimacy and you want to be loyal and you want it to be for the long term, then it doesn't matter what gender you are. But if the disconnect is often, and this is a bit of a stereotype, but usually it's more that women want a loving, stable relationship and men perhaps don't want that as much.