Dr. Tara Swart

Yeah. Or don't, you know, just don't want it right now, but go through periods where that's what they want and go through periods where that's not what they want, which I guess could be true of any gender as well. But overall, more likely women will want to like be in a monogamous relationship.

Yeah. Or don't, you know, just don't want it right now, but go through periods where that's what they want and go through periods where that's not what they want, which I guess could be true of any gender as well. But overall, more likely women will want to like be in a monogamous relationship.

So it comes from evolution. So when we lived in the cave, women did need men to protect them from predators and to hunt for food.

So it comes from evolution. So when we lived in the cave, women did need men to protect them from predators and to hunt for food.

I mean, they generally didn't hunt as much, so they gathered more. But then it's hard to get protein from what you gather rather than what you hunt. So for survival, and you know, they use the fat and the skins and everything. So it wasn't just food, it was shelter and fire and all of that kind of stuff. So although we don't necessarily need

I mean, they generally didn't hunt as much, so they gathered more. But then it's hard to get protein from what you gather rather than what you hunt. So for survival, and you know, they use the fat and the skins and everything. So it wasn't just food, it was shelter and fire and all of that kind of stuff. So although we don't necessarily need

a man for those physical things now, it's a very strong survival wiring in the brain. And so what we have, you know, in the cave, we lived nomadically. So often the men would go and hunt and be away for a very long time. Or if they went far enough and they found a cave of the same tribe, they would just stay there and not go back. Why risk your life to travel back for six weeks?

a man for those physical things now, it's a very strong survival wiring in the brain. And so what we have, you know, in the cave, we lived nomadically. So often the men would go and hunt and be away for a very long time. Or if they went far enough and they found a cave of the same tribe, they would just stay there and not go back. Why risk your life to travel back for six weeks?

But over time, a lot of societies in the modern world have asked people to live in unit families. And so we have seen men's brains be rewired. Really? Yeah. Relatively recently, like maybe in the last 10 years, research has showed that when you become a dad for the first time, oxytocin rewires your brain so that you're more into bonding and less into the testosterone competitive stuff.

But over time, a lot of societies in the modern world have asked people to live in unit families. And so we have seen men's brains be rewired. Really? Yeah. Relatively recently, like maybe in the last 10 years, research has showed that when you become a dad for the first time, oxytocin rewires your brain so that you're more into bonding and less into the testosterone competitive stuff.

Because if you think about it, lions and tigers, they'll eat their own children.

Because if you think about it, lions and tigers, they'll eat their own children.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I get this question all the time.

I get this question all the time.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Well, so from about the age of 35, your testosterone will have started dropping significantly already.

Well, so from about the age of 35, your testosterone will have started dropping significantly already.