Dr. Tracy Vaillancourt

So it's basically relational or indirect aggression, but a baby version where you are mad and you won't kiss your mom or you refuse to hug them, you turn your back, you know, give them a baby silent treatment. And we found that Close to 80% of toddlers did this, as reported by parents and by their preschool teachers, their daycare teachers. So we're pretty sophisticated social animals.

So it's basically relational or indirect aggression, but a baby version where you are mad and you won't kiss your mom or you refuse to hug them, you turn your back, you know, give them a baby silent treatment. And we found that Close to 80% of toddlers did this, as reported by parents and by their preschool teachers, their daycare teachers. So we're pretty sophisticated social animals.

And it's interesting because like in that we talked about how there was also a relationship to how it's used between parents. And is it the case that, you know, parents think, well, I'm not hitting my spouse. I'm not yelling at my spouse, but I'm stonewalling them for two weeks straight. And that's like a better way of expressing it. And then the kids are picking that up.

And it's interesting because like in that we talked about how there was also a relationship to how it's used between parents. And is it the case that, you know, parents think, well, I'm not hitting my spouse. I'm not yelling at my spouse, but I'm stonewalling them for two weeks straight. And that's like a better way of expressing it. And then the kids are picking that up.

And it's interesting because like in that we talked about how there was also a relationship to how it's used between parents. And is it the case that, you know, parents think, well, I'm not hitting my spouse. I'm not yelling at my spouse, but I'm stonewalling them for two weeks straight. And that's like a better way of expressing it. And then the kids are picking that up.

Or it's like, what is the origin of this? And I don't know. Like, I'm not... Not here to answer that at this point. It was the first study that was done. It needs to be replicated. Everything needs to be replicated now. As you know, Chris, you got a good idea.

Or it's like, what is the origin of this? And I don't know. Like, I'm not... Not here to answer that at this point. It was the first study that was done. It needs to be replicated. Everything needs to be replicated now. As you know, Chris, you got a good idea.

Or it's like, what is the origin of this? And I don't know. Like, I'm not... Not here to answer that at this point. It was the first study that was done. It needs to be replicated. Everything needs to be replicated now. As you know, Chris, you got a good idea.

objectively successful but experientially miserable relationship like is that really the pinnacle of what you're expecting in the rest of your life exactly it's attachment theory right it's about this is the prototype and is this the prototype you want kids to have there was some studies done I think Sarah Jaffe is the one who did it like

objectively successful but experientially miserable relationship like is that really the pinnacle of what you're expecting in the rest of your life exactly it's attachment theory right it's about this is the prototype and is this the prototype you want kids to have there was some studies done I think Sarah Jaffe is the one who did it like

objectively successful but experientially miserable relationship like is that really the pinnacle of what you're expecting in the rest of your life exactly it's attachment theory right it's about this is the prototype and is this the prototype you want kids to have there was some studies done I think Sarah Jaffe is the one who did it like

maybe 15, 20 years ago, showing that it's actually really dangerous for kids to be in a home with an antisocial dad. Their outcomes are better than not having that antisocial dad in the home. So like, yeah, so keep families together, but at what cost? I mean, it really, you know, it's like everything. There's always going to be variance. There's always heterogeneity.

maybe 15, 20 years ago, showing that it's actually really dangerous for kids to be in a home with an antisocial dad. Their outcomes are better than not having that antisocial dad in the home. So like, yeah, so keep families together, but at what cost? I mean, it really, you know, it's like everything. There's always going to be variance. There's always heterogeneity.

maybe 15, 20 years ago, showing that it's actually really dangerous for kids to be in a home with an antisocial dad. Their outcomes are better than not having that antisocial dad in the home. So like, yeah, so keep families together, but at what cost? I mean, it really, you know, it's like everything. There's always going to be variance. There's always heterogeneity.

And we have to be thinking about these nuances because it's not going to be one size fits all. Yeah, having a dad who's, you know, modeling really inappropriate behavior. And I know people are going to say, well, what about moms? This is the study that looked at dads. But yeah, any of these role models being corrupt is a problem.

And we have to be thinking about these nuances because it's not going to be one size fits all. Yeah, having a dad who's, you know, modeling really inappropriate behavior. And I know people are going to say, well, what about moms? This is the study that looked at dads. But yeah, any of these role models being corrupt is a problem.

And we have to be thinking about these nuances because it's not going to be one size fits all. Yeah, having a dad who's, you know, modeling really inappropriate behavior. And I know people are going to say, well, what about moms? This is the study that looked at dads. But yeah, any of these role models being corrupt is a problem.

And that's also the peers, like having the leadership of your school be corrupt is not good for the health of your school.

And that's also the peers, like having the leadership of your school be corrupt is not good for the health of your school.

And that's also the peers, like having the leadership of your school be corrupt is not good for the health of your school.