Dr. Trisha Pasricha
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You don't get butterflies.
Yeah.
Now, of course, here we go.
Pop science jumps in and says, oh, there's no spark.
There's no chemistry.
He's not the guy.
She's not the girl.
And you might assign a lot of value to that absence of a gut feeling and say, you know what, the spark, it just wasn't there.
It's not worth it.
Totally.
And what I'd like to remind you is that the physiology, again, your gut is not telling the future.
It is not a good or bad thing when you have that feeling or when you don't have that feeling.
Because what if what is happening in that moment is simply that you feel safe, that you feel completely regulated?
Is that not a wonderful thing?
And maybe, right, like maybe this guy is not the right guy for you.
I can't tell you that.
Your gut is not telling you that.
It's asking you...
to maybe go on one more date, maybe gather more information and see if he's the right guy.
And he may still not be.